Please Help Me Diagnose Someone

[Eric]

(This is a serious post)

I have an employee that has an exceedingly annoying characteristic--she stands way too close to others. All day she will be standing in too close of proximity right behind me, beside me, or in my face when I'm talking. She'll constantly look over my shoulder when I'm doing something at a computer. It drives me insane. I will go back in my office for the sole purpose of getting away from her. Moments later she will come down and sit right next to me. Even if I make it clear I'm busy, she'll come sit down, not talk, and create an awkward silence. Whenever I try to get away from her, she follows...there is no safe place at work to hide. AGAIN IT DRIVES ME FUCKING INSANE. And I thought it was just me, but everyone at work feels the same way (she does the same to them).

I bring this up not to complain, but to see if there is any logical explanation like a disorder of some sort. Because I don't want to hate her as much as I do. I want a reason so I can feel bad and be able to understand.

 

[Rahim]

maybe she likes you and doesnt know what to say so she waits there for you to start up the conversation.

 

[DarkPhantom13]

Is this the same girl that you handled in the office a few weeks back?

 

[S. Fourteen]

Some are huggers, some are kissers, and we have those few that are bubble invaders. Eat lots of garlic.

 

[Preach]

I'll give you a short, fairly related response. I work in a store where we get a lot of older dudes. They often share the same tendencies you described in that girl. They stand close to me. If we are standing 2 feet apart, face to face, and i'm talking, many of them take a step closer so as to come all the way up in my face.

I don't know why. Eye-contact is a factor. Maybe she likes eye contact when interacting with people. Or maybe she simply learned how to be close to people like physically at a young age and nobody had the guts to tell her that's not 100% normal. lol. I'm gonna look around a bit though on this. I was almost interested myself.

 

[ill-matic]

I'll give you a short, fairly related response. I work in a store where we get a lot of older dudes. They often share the same tendencies you described in that girl. They stand close to me. If we are standing 2 feet apart, face to face, and i'm talking, many of them take a step closer so as to come all the way up in my face.

I don't know why. Eye-contact is a factor. Maybe she likes eye contact when interacting with people. Or maybe she simply learned how to be close to people like physically at a young age and nobody had the guts to tell her that's not 100% normal. lol. I'm gonna look around a bit though on this. I was almost interested myself.

depending on how old, it's because of their hearing.

 

[Maverick]

I'll give you a short, fairly related response. I work in a store where we get a lot of older dudes. They often share the same tendencies you described in that girl. They stand close to me. If we are standing 2 feet apart, face to face, and i'm talking, many of them take a step closer so as to come all the way up in my face.

I don't know why. Eye-contact is a factor. Maybe she likes eye contact when interacting with people. Or maybe she simply learned how to be close to people like physically at a young age and nobody had the guts to tell her that's not 100% normal. lol. I'm gonna look around a bit though on this. I was almost interested myself.

has me curious too. i know a dude who has to step up to me when were talking. its annoying as fuck because i feel like i cant go anywhere. seriously, sometimes it just makes me wanna leave. dudes a friend and all but i can't stand being in a conversation with him. usually i get lucky enough when there are other people there and i kinda stand back. that way he's in someone elses face and not mine.

 

[PuffnScruff]

i had this same problem once and when i worked at dominos too. except the girl was my manager. you need tofuck her and get it over with or if you already have you need to fire her

 

[Tha_Wood]

yeh i no a few people who talk to close to your face, its fuckin weird, you keep slowly movin back and they keep getting closer, then u hit somethin behind you n ur stuck there.

and lol at puff. god dammit how many times must i spread rep before i can rep u.

 

[Casey]

I can't fucking stand it when people come up close. Like they are so close you can smell their stank ass breath. It's fucking unnecessary, have they not heard of PERSONAL SPACE.

 

[Synful*Luv]

I think it's just a personality trait, no clue as to why someone does it, but i've been around people like that before also. I think just talk logically to her. Pull her to the side and explain to her in a calm manner that it is extremely uncomfortable for you when she is so close to you, even lie and say it makes you claustrophobic or something to spare her feelings if you want. Maybe she doesn't realize she's being annoying.

 

[Jokerman]

I'm very familiar with this type of person and can help you deal with her to your satisfaction, but I don't feel motivated since you annoyed me with a remark in an earlier thread.

:laugh:

 

[Seko]

I cannot stand when some people do that (i have this urge to call then retards of some level but.. must resist..).
Like, i'm trying to talk to you, not kiss you, get the fuck away from my facial area.
I usually just tell them staright away if they dont realize to stay back after ive moved further while talking.
I Just say bluntly Dont come so close.

I'd love to hear what those people who do that shit had to say about it. like Why? Can you not have a conversation with a person without sticking your face down their troat?

 

[Maverick]

I cannot stand when some people do that (i have this urge to call then retards of some level but.. must resist..).
Like, i'm trying to talk to you, not kiss you, get the fuck away from my facial area.
I usually just tell them staright away if they dont realize to stay back after ive moved further while talking.
I Just say bluntly Dont come so close.

I'd love to hear what those people who do that shit had to say about it. like Why? Can you not have a conversation with a person without sticking your face down their troat?

haha nice post.

eric i think you should just tell her "don't come so close".

 

[Jeremy]

Why don't you tell her to fucking work? Isn't that why she's there?

 

[keco52]

Maybe she doesn't realize she's doing it. Tell her she's guarding too close...you need 3 feet. Like...haha funny but really get the f outta my space.

 

[SiGh]

I will go back in my office

..LOL okay.

 

[Farzin]

Here is what you do.

You ask her out and try to sleep with her.

It will create that awkward work environment that she'll leave you be.

 

[Bacho]

..LOL okay.

Yea that was funny

 

[Bender]

I hate people who have no respect for other people personal space, it means they are being down right ignorant. Unless it's a female who I would benefit from jumping in the sack with.

I have found it works if you stick out your foot on the floor when they walk too near you. That should give them the message.