Someone....

[keco52]

My friend had an abortion. She asked me to go with her. I really didn't want to go. She didn't have anyone else to go with her. I went. She's really emotional as I would expect someone to be in this situation but I really don't know how to comfort her.

Her b.f. hits her and she's saving money to get away from him. She is just pretending to feel ill because he is in the house with her now. I don't know. I like being the friend that can be depended on but this part of the friendship sucks. People told me I should tell her I didn't want to go but to me that didn't really seem like an option.

Somebody? thoughts....

 

[Amara]

Wanting or not wanting to go isnt really what its about, its not really about you and I think you know that which is why you went. Friendships arent always rosy, they're just as difficult as any other relationship sometimes and put you in awkward or challenging situations. She needed you and you were there and if people dont understand that, they dont understand what its like to be a friend. You should feel proud of yourself and I'm sure your friend is very grateful.

 

[_carmi]

you did the right thing by going with her. only by being there you made her feel better.

as for the bf situation, can't she cut all contact with him? you're saying she's saving money to get away from him.. is it because she's living with him right now, or that she wants to run away from him? your friend seems in very bad position.

it's never easy to be friends with someone. like amara said, friendships aren't always rosy, and sometimes one must do things that she didn't want to support the other. because friendship is all about being there for them and them being there for you.

oh and question on the side, did she get aborted so her bf wouldn't know she was pregnant and hit her more?

 

[k69atie]

I think it's good that you went with her - sounds like she doesn't have many people she can trust or to be there for her.

As unplesant as it may have been for you going with her, you were there for her and she is probably really grateful for that.

It sucks the situation she is in - and you should be proud of yourself for being such a good friend.

 

[keco52]

oh and question on the side, did she get aborted so her bf wouldn't know she was pregnant and hit her more?

I later got the whole story. He knew she was pregnant and told her "Do whatever you want. I don't care" but yes I think she didn't want to bring a baby into an abusive relationship and risk the baby being a victim of it also.

He lives with her. He won't leave. He has another g.f. that he switches back and forth. He told her (my friend) he's confused and doesn't know what to do. She told him "You can leave I don't want to be with you"

She went back to her moms house one time and he tryed to kick the door in and beat up everyone in the house to get to her. So I think my friend is afraid to go anywhere because she doesn't want to get anyone else involved...but I told her she can come stay with me because he doesn't know where I live and I will let him break in my house and shoot his dumb ass :fury: with the mood I'm in right now.

 

[k69atie]

Bloody hell Poor girl.

That is so bad, i am mad and i don't even know your friend!