Me. And life.

[dillaxx]

^^i dunno whatchu talkin bout?

no one's defending anyone... everyone's just shitting on bachaveli... i mean.. ive had my fair share of ebeef with him, and i thought maybe i was the volatile one.. but apparently even rukas comes under this kid's fire... so maybe i'm normal after all

 

[Euphanasia]

There are limits to being ''open'' in relationship. I can see being open talking about all sorts of things. But to go as far as sharing your parter with another man is just too open. What could possibly happen worse than this? I can't think of anything. So you reached your limit and exceeded. Like i said, It again comes back to question of value and self respect.

Would you share your girl with another man? No because you would find that disgusting. Its not because you are not ''open'' enough but because you would think you crossed the boundaries, exceeded your sexual fantasies, you exceeded your limitations.

I tend to agree with this. However, I am able to make the distinction between what I feel is right in my life and what matters to others in their own lives.

Maybe that's just how his culture/life taught him.
Maybe what he said is based on his experience or it lays somewhere deep in his psychic

Good post.

 

[Rukas]

The point is not whether having a threesome is going to damage a relationship. The point is that having a threesome, even if it is ill fated or a huge mistake, does not mean that the person is subject to just sleeping with any random guy and cheating on her partner.

Im not condoning that she have a threesome, like Bach pointed out, I wouldnt share my partner. But it's Syns life and her relationship, all I am saying is that if she does have one, or has considered one, it does not mean that she is automatically the type to cheat on her partner. Those things are not related.

 

[dillaxx]

how awesome would it be if those two hot chicks in my psych class consented to a threesome??? :horny:

 

[Rukas]

^^ I dont think anyone is saying threesomes arent fun, because if they are, OMG GET A LIFE! But thats with random chicks, not with the women you love.

Having said that, I do know couples that have had threesomes and their relationship is fine.

 

[Rahim]

think about it like this... what would prison mike do?

 

[Bachaveli]

I tend to believe otherwise. If it walks like a duck than it is a duck.

If there was a girl who does threesomes occasionally and another girl who does not even consider and even the conversation about it with her men would mean she'll break the relationship. Who would be most likely to cheat if either of them considered sleeping with another man? The freaky one or the innocent one? The freaky one because she has already done the cheating. Yea I think threesome is technically cheating, in front of your man lol. But in this case the man is ''open minded'' in the relationship telling her that it is okay, don't worry about it pumpkin.

 

[Rukas]

^^ Youre an idiot.

Lets use my other example again. What youre saying is the same as saying that I am a wife beater because I like to slap my girl on the ass in bed.

Ive already hit her right? In bed. On the ass.

Thats bullshit, and so is your threesome = cheater idea.

A girl having a threesome, which more often than not its actually the MAN that introduces the subject and involves another WOMEN, is no more or less likely to go out and fuck random men than a girl who has never had a threesome.

 

[crittaz]

I'm not talking about Eric right now, I'm just gonna say something more like in general. For you, crittaz, and everybody else out there who might one day find themselves in a position where someone is complaining about a depression.

That's the worst advice you can give. "Think positive". The problem with depressions is that your body produces intoxicants that pour into your blood stream, affecting the processes in your mind, leading you right into negative thought cycles and keeping you there. Most depressions are irrational - like anxiety, panic or phobias. If a family member dies, that's one thing, but does anyone have mental health statistical numbers in their hand? I don't right now, but am I taking it way too far saying one in four people are depressed in the states? Either way, when I did see them I actually said out loud, "wow". Since the world's population just keeps growing I can't imagine it's a bunch of people dying, so I am making the assumption that most depressions are irrational.

The problem with irrational emotions is that regardless of your awareness of the irrationality, the feeling still is very real. To a person suffering from depressions or anxiety or indecisiveness or what have you, condescendingly throwing out a "just think positively" out there does more harm than good. Really. If it were that simple, no one would suffer from depressions.

The idea is to do what makes the person realize for him or herself what their actual problems are thinking it was their idea. Some times, that happens by dumb luck. Some times, people do not see straight and need guidance. Patronizing achieves the opposite as it can spawn a multiple of negative associations for the receiver. Feeling inferior, feeling rage based on an assumption that you feel superior, failure to understand, confusion. Furthermore, it helps nothing, because like I said, if that's all everybody who's depressed needs to hear, the problem would be non-existent.

By the way, it's not like I'm saying you (crittaz) implied anything and I know you just spoke your mind from your point of view. These are just some thoughts I thought was proper to air here.

I completely agree with you about depression. I would not give the same kind of advice to someone that was actually suffering from depression. What I got from Eric's post is that hes just kinda in a rut right now. It's something that pretty much everyone goes through, but I don't think it is depression. I wasn't trying yo be condescending but I guess it's not fair for me to say just lighten up when i don't know the full situation.

It's just in my case I know a lot of people in my life (example my brother) that aren't clinically depressed but i see a lot of similarities when comparing with eric's situation. It's easy to fall into a rut. It's easy to look at all the bad in your life and think how terrible things are. Now I'm not saying it's an easy thing to look at the bright side of things when i say 'think positively'. It does take some work. Yes a person dealing with depression would probably need some professional help. But to the people that are just feeling low, I think it can do wonders to just step outside of yourself and think about things..whether it's through mediation or whatever.

 

[dillaxx]

^^ Youre an idiot.

Lets use my other example again. What youre saying is the same as saying that I am a wife beater because I like to slap my girl on the ass in bed.

Ive already hit her right? In bed. On the ass.

Thats bullshit, and so is your threesome = cheater idea.

A girl having a threesome, which more often than not its actually the MAN that introduces the subject and involves another WOMEN, is no more or less likely to go out and fuck random men than a girl who has never had a threesome.

yeah women are weird like that... they have the same weird sexual fantasies we do, we just get scrutinized for it as men.... but most of the time the chick introduces it... and of course the guy likes it... girls wants something different or to "experiment" and the guy gets two different girls to work with...

now of course a girl a some stranger isnt great... but her best friend? hey... chicks have alotta lesbian thoughts... we pass them off when kissing each other in pictures or sleeping in the same bed as "oh, it's a girl thing...they're girls, they can do it"... but really, it's gotta be some lesbianic emotions... hidden...lesbianic emotions... that they're expressing... if she wants to do it with her best friend, whom you probably see alot of yourself, then why not?

 

[S O F I]

yeah women are weird like that... they have the same weird sexual fantasies we do, we just get scrutinized for it as men.... but most of the time the chick introduces it... and of course the guy likes it... girls wants something different or to "experiment" and the guy gets two different girls to work with...

now of course a girl a some stranger isnt great... but her best friend? hey... chicks have alotta lesbian thoughts... we pass them off when kissing each other in pictures or sleeping in the same bed as "oh, it's a girl thing...they're girls, they can do it"... but really, it's gotta be some lesbianic emotions... hidden...lesbianic emotions... that they're expressing... if she wants to do it with her best friend, whom you probably see alot of yourself, then why not?

Don't turn gay now.

 

[GhettoStar]

I tend to believe otherwise. If it walks like a duck than it is a duck.

Thats not only narrow minded, but ignorant. You have to know the person somewhat, you cant just rely on surface looks as the basis of your judgements.

 

[Bachaveli]

^^ Youre an idiot.

Lets use my other example again. What youre saying is the same as saying that I am a wife beater because I like to slap my girl on the ass in bed.

Ive already hit her right? In bed. On the ass.

Thats bullshit, and so is your threesome = cheater idea.

A girl having a threesome, which more often than not its actually the MAN that introduces the subject and involves another WOMEN, is no more or less likely to go out and fuck random men than a girl who has never had a threesome.

lol at this dude.
Thats different. Slapping a girl on the ass does not mean you beating her up. Beating her up means beating her up.
Consequently, someone having a threesome which technically means that she is cheating just ''openly'', means that she is cheating. Having a sex with random guy would also mean cheating.

Women have just as wild sexual fantasies as men do. What does men introducing the idea of threesome proof? That women are less to blame for their involvement because they weren't the ones who introduced the idea? The fact that they consider such idea to be ''normal'' to them is disgracing.

 

[Rukas]

lol at this dude.
Thats different. Slapping a girl on the ass does not mean you beating her up. Beating her up means beating her up.
Consequently, someone having a threesome which technically means that she is cheating just ''openly'', means that she is cheating. Having a sex with random guy would also mean cheating.

Women have just as wild sexual fantasies as men do. What does men introducing the idea of threesome proof? That women are less to blame for their involvement because they weren't the ones who introduced the idea? The fact that they consider such idea to be ''normal'' to them is disgracing.

Its no different. Ive slept with a girl, who was completely "normal," but enjoyed being choked a little. Choked is choked. I did it; does that mean I would choke her outside of the bedroom? No.

Its the same principle.

And having a threesome is NOT cheating if both partners are consenting to it. Cheating means having an affair with somebody else behind your partners back; a threesome involving your partner is not cheating.

Seriously, you seem like you have no idea what you're talking about. Its like you dont even fully understand your opinion.

Youre saying a threesome is cheating and therefore she'd cheat outside the bedroom but beating a girl in bed isnt really beating her so you wouldnt beat her outside the bedroon? Your logic is totally off. Seriously.

And whats worse is you're a complete brick wall and you're totally ignorant about this.

Lets break it down as simple as I can.

Having a threesome = A.
Cheating = B.

Two totally different things.

Therefore A does not equal B.

 

[Bachaveli]

Its no different. Ive slept with a girl, who was completely "normal," but enjoyed being choked a little. Choked is choked. I did it; does that mean I would choke her outside of the bedroom? No.

Its the same principle.

And having a threesome is NOT cheating if both partners are consenting to it. Cheating means having an affair with somebody else behind your partners back; a threesome involving your partner is not cheating.

Seriously, you seem like you have no idea what you're talking about. Its like you dont even fully understand your opinion.

Youre saying a threesome is cheating and therefore she'd cheat outside the bedroom but beating a girl in bed isnt really beating her so you wouldnt beat her outside the bedroon? Your logic is totally off. Seriously.

And whats worse is you're a complete brick wall and you're totally ignorant about this.

Lets break it down as simple as I can.

Having a threesome = A.
Cheating = B.

Two totally different things.

Therefore A does not equal B.

No normal girl would enjoy choking.

Slapping a girl on the ass does not mean beating her. Not, beating a girl does not mean beating a girl.

Nevertheless, having threesome certainly does not mean normal thing in the relationship. No normal person would consider such thing unless he or she completely doesn't give a shit about one another, but he or she rather does it to enjoy the excitement. Its low self-esteem behavior however you wanna put it. No it doesn't mean I am not open in relationship. There are limits to respecting yourself and your partner.

 

[DarkPhantom13]

ROFL How the fuck did this thread go from Eric hating his life and turning into a 3some discussion? WTF?!

 

[SiGh]

who the fuck deletes my posts??? some people on here are just faggots and cant let anyone argue a point.... who ever deleted it, you're a faggot cumrag...washer.... i hate you...

Well, I deleted it.
Yeah some people on here are faggots, who have a hard time letting go some peoples nuts. So, I try and help them let it go. Sometimes they grasp it too hard and its nearly impossible. Oh well. Atleast I tried.

Only reason I don't permanently ban you is because you've come back more than any other member banned. Shows that you really enjoy the site/forum. So, I figured I keep temp banning you for every time you mess up, as long as it takes, until you realize that there are rules to be followed here.

So go take another break, hmm..for a week and a half. See you back in 10 days...11-02-2007, 1am.

 

[Rukas]

No normal girl would enjoy choking.

Slapping a girl on the ass does not mean beating her. Not, beating a girl does not mean beating a girl.

Nevertheless, having threesome certainly does not mean normal thing in the relationship. No normal person would consider such thing unless he or she completely doesn't give a shit about one another, but he or she rather does it to enjoy the excitement. Its low self-esteem behavior however you wanna put it. No it doesn't mean I am not open in relationship. There are limits to respecting yourself and your partner.

Ive come to the conclusion that its not so much that youre a prude than the fact that youre just an ignorant asshole.

"No normal girl would enjoy being choked." And who are you to deem what is normal and what isnt? You'd be shocked to learn what normal girls like and dont like, and youd be shocked if I told you what normal girl likes to have a hand on her throat because it makes her feel naughty. If you knew anything about girls you would know they like danger. That includes a hand on their throat, hair being pulled, being tied up, spanked, etc etc. A lot of girls get off on that and are perfectly well adjusted in and out of the bedroom.

Here is a scenario. If you girlfriend was bisexual, and you obviously could not please that side of her nature that she needed fulfilled. Would you rather a) have a romp in the sack with one of her best friends or b) have her cheat on you behind your back. Keep in mind you both love one another, you just cant possibly provide something she craves sexually.

You have absolutely no idea what is normal in this world, nor are you any sort of authority on the matter, and thus you have no right to tell anybody else what is normal and what isnt. And you certainly, under no circumstance, have any right to judge Synful or any other member on this board based on your retarded narrow minded ideology of what you think is normal and what isnt.

Youre a fucking douche bag and Im surprised youve lasted as long as you have on this forum, and in life, with such out spoken ignorance and blinders on for so long.

I have disproved every ignorant comment youve made and you still spew forth your self brainwashed bullshit opinion like a fucking drone.

Just because Synful Love CONSIDERED having a threesome does not mean she would cheat on her boyfriend. The fact that they DISCUSSED it first shows theyre commitment and shows that rather than going behind one another's backs they discussed their needs and curiosities like mature adults.

Seriously, youve either never had a mature relationship or youve lived a completely sheltered life and gone out with nothing but boring ass yes bitches or nuns that have no opinion and no needs.

A couple that has a threesome may never cheat because they are fulfilled by one another's love and understanding.

Id never hit a women but will slap the shit out of that ass.

Id never cuss a girl out unwarranted but when we're having hard sex Ill call her the filthiest names in the world if thats what she wants, and believe me, plenty of normal girls like that on occasion.

Just like plenty of normal girls like to call you daddy. Or like to tell you its your pussy. Or like anal sex. Or like their hair pulled, nipples pintched, and a little force applied.

Get the fuck out of your bedroom (or get a real women into it with you) and live life a little because you are nobody to tell anybody what is normal and what is deemed appropriate. Shit if you dont want to take my word for it read a book on sex and get informed before you make a complete fucking retard of yourself.

And yes you piss me off, because you're a complete douche bag.

The KKK thinks white people are normal and attacks anyone not fitting what they believe to be normal and accepted. Ive heard ignorant people make comments saying that black people are violent in their music so they must all be violent in real life.

You think only people that practice boring sex are normal, and attack anyone not fitting what you believe to be normal and accepted. Ive seen you make comments saying that if a girl has a threesome with another person involved she must sleep with random people in real life.

If you cant see the similarities and ignorance in those statements than you are a total lost cause. If that is the case, please log off and fuck off.

 

[Eric]

Ive come to the conclusion that its not so much that youre a prude than the fact that youre just an ignorant asshole.

"No normal girl would enjoy being choked." And who are you to deem what is normal and what isnt? You'd be shocked to learn what normal girls like and dont like, and youd be shocked if I told you what normal girl likes to have a hand on her throat because it makes her feel naughty. If you knew anything about girls you would know they like danger. That includes a hand on their throat, hair being pulled, being tied up, spanked, etc etc. A lot of girls get off on that and are perfectly well adjusted in and out of the bedroom.

Here is a scenario. If you girlfriend was bisexual, and you obviously could not please that side of her nature that she needed fulfilled. Would you rather a) have a romp in the sack with one of her best friends or b) have her cheat on you behind your back. Keep in mind you both love one another, you just cant possibly provide something she craves sexually.

You have absolutely no idea what is normal in this world, nor are you any sort of authority on the matter, and thus you have no right to tell anybody else what is normal and what isnt. And you certainly, under no circumstance, have any right to judge Synful or any other member on this board based on your retarded narrow minded ideology of what you think is normal and what isnt.

Youre a fucking douche bag and Im surprised youve lasted as long as you have on this forum, and in life, with such out spoken ignorance and blinders on for so long.

I have disproved every ignorant comment youve made and you still spew forth your self brainwashed bullshit opinion like a fucking drone.

Just because Synful Love CONSIDERED having a threesome does not mean she would cheat on her boyfriend. The fact that they DISCUSSED it first shows theyre commitment and shows that rather than going behind one another's backs they discussed their needs and curiosities like mature adults.

Seriously, youve either never had a mature relationship or youve lived a completely sheltered life and gone out with nothing but boring ass yes bitches or nuns that have no opinion and no needs.

A couple that has a threesome may never cheat because they are fulfilled by one another's love and understanding.

Id never hit a women but will slap the shit out of that ass.

Id never cuss a girl out unwarranted but when we're having hard sex Ill call her the filthiest names in the world if thats what she wants, and believe me, plenty of normal girls like that on occasion.

Just like plenty of normal girls like to call you daddy. Or like to tell you its your pussy. Or like anal sex. Or like their hair pulled, nipples pintched, and a little force applied.

Get the fuck out of your bedroom (or get a real women into it with you) and live life a little because you are nobody to tell anybody what is normal and what is deemed appropriate. Shit if you dont want to take my word for it read a book on sex and get informed before you make a complete fucking retard of yourself.

And yes you piss me off, because you're a complete douche bag.

The KKK thinks white people are normal and attacks anyone not fitting what they believe to be normal and accepted. Ive heard ignorant people make comments saying that black people are violent in their music so they must all be violent in real life.

You think only people that practice boring sex are normal, and attack anyone not fitting what you believe to be normal and accepted. Ive seen you make comments saying that if a girl has a threesome with another person involved she must sleep with random people in real life.

If you cant see the similarities and ignorance in those statements than you are a total lost cause. If that is the case, please log off and fuck off.

Ban him!

 

[Pittsey]

How is it cheating when you have been given permission....


Fucking foreigners.!!!