Have you had as much bad luck with men as me?

[k69atie]

I was just wondering, cos I feel like I am the unluckiest girl alive!! Lol.

As some of you know I have been single for over 18months, my ex was a complete arsehole, he was engaged to someone else the whole time he was seeing me, he owes me money, he treated me like shit, he dumped me by text!! i could go on lol!

Anyway my point is, I never have luck with men, they either cheat on me or treat me like shit (or both) or they say they want more and then just use me for sex Have only had 2 serious relationships one when i was 16 and my ex which was all built on lies.

I was just wondering if anyone else was as unlucky in love as me??

If not cheer me up with your stories of love

 

[Emma]

My last bf was a complete arsehole. Compulsive liar he changed me a lot actually, in bad ways. Like now I have a hard time trusting guys and I get jealous A LOT
I was with him for 2 years and I dunno how I did it actually lol. I can't stand him now. That really was a relationship built on lies.
He was the first guy I actually thought I loved :/ looking back at it I don't see how

 

[Missy "C"]

lol, I was planing to make a thread about this in dfl, but here is better. I also think I'm the unluckiest girl alive, but I see the bright side of it: at least nobody owes me money

I've been single for 10 months, and my last relationship lasted only for a couple of months. I was with this guy and I didn't even like him a lot, so when I got bored I decided to dump him. It made me feel very guilty cuz he was in love with me, and he just went crazy. But I couldn't go on like that, I tried to explain it to him nicely, I did my best.

At high school I was in love with another guy but he didn't like me, so well, it was horrible but after a year and a half I was able to accept it.

To sum up, I only had a serious relationship in my whole life and I didn't like that guy. I was in love once and it was depressing. Now I'm single, but the worst part of it is that I don't wanna date someone seriously, I don't know somebody I'd like t go out with. But I'm young, so I don't care about it a lot, if at the age of 45 I continue like this I'll start worrying. One day I'll meet someone, I'm not desperate yet!

 

[Steph]

oh, god, yes im unlucky. Me and my ex broke up coz he liked one of my good friends......now theyre together, even tho she had told me she wasnt intrested. The guy before that, was a serious asshole, i hated him so much, kind of still do, but i try not to think about it, we were never 'together' so i cant bitch about that. Im with someone else now, I hope that works out allright, its burly been 4 days, and so far its all good, i just dont want to rush things. Im unlucky...but im only 14 so hopefully it changes.

 

[Luv4Pac4Ever]

Oh honey, I done had my share of bad luck and somebody else's lol You seen in my thread in DFL what the last one was like and we won't even go into my relationship with my kids' dad cause that'd take days lol In between, let's just say none of em lasted very long. This is why I never got married and never even had thoughts of it, except with the kids' dad and thank God I didn't end up doing it.

 

[k69atie]

My last bf was a complete arsehole. Compulsive liar he changed me a lot actually, in bad ways. Like now I have a hard time trusting guys and I get jealous A LOT
I was with him for 2 years and I dunno how I did it actually lol. I can't stand him now. That really was a relationship built on lies.
He was the first guy I actually thought I loved :/ looking back at it I don't see how [/QUOTE]

lol, i know what you mean, i really thought i loved my ex which i think is why i put up with so much shit, but now just thinking about him makes my skin crawl!!! he was also a compulsive liar!!! to be honest i wouldn't piss on him if he was on fire! (harsh i know but hey!)

i put it in here rather than dfl cos i just wanted us girls to see it!!

 

[k69atie]

i thought it was just me who was unlucky!!! well it's their loss not ours!!! lol

 

[Katarina]

I'm in a very strange relationship. I started dating this guy for fun last August and I didn't think it'd get any more serious than that and neither did he. Until we fell in love. Since then we have broken up maybe 5 times, because a lot of people around us can't accept the fact that we're together. We always end up together after a week or so though. I think he cares a lot more about what people think than I do and that bothers me sometimes although I understand why. Right now we've decided to continue dating but not calling it a relationship, because he feels it's easier that way. What's in a name, I guess.

 

[_carmi]

bad luck? i had one serious relationship in my life was last year, lasted 11 months. and then i broke up cuz i didnt love the guy anymore. which was sad cuz he actually really loved me for me and it couldnt have not be for sex cause we didnt have some yet. now that i think of it, it was the best guy i ever liked and i even loved him in my life. i think i'll never find someone caring like that and that loved me that much. then 5 days later, i started going out with my bestfriend cuz i was in lack of affection... but then it lasted 2 months and the 2nd month we werent even talking to eachother so i broke up and lsot a bestfriend at the same time too. now i look at that guy (cause he's in my class) and i dont even understand how he was my bestfriend. since i broke up he acts like an idiot.

and now it been 9 months i'm single and i find it hard. i'm feeling kinda lonely. oh and in this 9 months i got played by a guy that i liked and that still now plays with me and i just cant stop liking him..

 

[k69atie]

^^^ men eh??? I am single too, and i hate it. my bed is very cold on my own!! lol

 

[_carmi]

lol its hard being lonely

 

[Amara]

I guess I have kinda been lucky but I've broken a couple of hearts badly, so karma is probably about due to get the better of me... I haven't been single in a while... I hate being single, so I usually date people regularly until I find a keeper like my current boyfriend (nearly 9 months and going for a new record!).

In any case Katie, I think you are probably better off being single if the other option is being with an asshole! I know to say to have patience is no consolation, so I wont! A taxi driver once said to me and my friends, you'll never meet a nice guy in a club, rather you'll find them in church... lol... I found it funny, but understood what he meant - looking in the right places does make a difference. Dunno what things are like over there, but here a lot of people tend to be finding others on the internet... my aunty did it... thought it was great!

 

[k69atie]

^^^ yeah a lot of people do that, but i have had a few bad experiences of meeting people on the net, turned out to be complete weirdos who really freaked me out so that kind of put me off to be honest!!!

i am not at the point where i am desperate to be in a realtionship, at the mo i am quite happy being single, and i have met someone but i don't want him as a boyfriend, i am quite happy just to use men him for a while to get what i want, maybe even help me to get my self confidence back! i know that sounds awful but he feels the same so we are both happy, if worst comes to the worst and i start feelin g something for him then will end it if he doesnt feel the same. i'll cross that bridge if/when i get to it!!! i hadn't had sex for over 18months until i met him sso i've got plenty of catching up to do!!

 

[_carmi]

well thats cool for u. happy 2 hear ur now happy.

 

[Amara]

^^^ yeah a lot of people do that, but i have had a few bad experiences of meeting people on the net, turned out to be complete weirdos who really freaked me out so that kind of put me off to be honest!!!

i am not at the point where i am desperate to be in a realtionship, at the mo i am quite happy being single, and i have met someone but i don't want him as a boyfriend, i am quite happy just to use men him for a while to get what i want, maybe even help me to get my self confidence back! i know that sounds awful but he feels the same so we are both happy, if worst comes to the worst and i start feelin g something for him then will end it if he doesnt feel the same. i'll cross that bridge if/when i get to it!!! i hadn't had sex for over 18months until i met him sso i've got plenty of catching up to do!!

lol. Cool, hope it works out. :thumb:

 

[k69atie]

hopefully it should do, i am quite happy with the regular sex at the mo, as it had been so long!!! lol. i know you will probs thing im a slag but im not, i just want some fun, and not rush into anything like i have done in the past and ended up getting hurt!

 

[Amara]

hopefully it should do, i am quite happy with the regular sex at the mo, as it had been so long!!! lol. i know you will probs thing im a slag but im not, i just want some fun, and not rush into anything like i have done in the past and ended up getting hurt!

Nah, I'm sure we all know you are nothing like a slag! It's funny when I'm in a relationship, I can tend to get bored with sex but then without it - I know it can get damn frustrating! lol. And yeah, I totally know what you mean about rushing in, I'm a fool for that too... enjoy yourself, go with the flow if you can - its always less stressful!

 

[k69atie]

^^^ yeah thats true, it is!! Tell me about it, i went 18 months without and then i got it and i felt hornier than i had for months!! I supposed you don't know what you're missing til you are reminded!! lol. I've made mistakes of judgement in the past so i'm going to enjoy it for as long as i can!

 

[~live2tell~]

i've been unlucky and lucky but love isn't the be all and end all... thank god i guess

 

[Lena]

I have. Every guy that i've dated turned out to be a dog. Either were messing with other girls or lying to me about something.