Failures?
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Most of us want to be someplace other than where we are. We look at the things we have, and they no longer do anything for us. We look in the mirror, and we don’t like what we see. We look at the people we’re with, and we don’t like them either. We look at our job, and we see the imperfections. We never seem to be happy with who we are or what we have. You put your finger on it when you spoke of balance. Balanced people appreciate what they have.
We have to stop always thinking that there’s someone or something missing from our life. What happened to simple living, where less can be more? We’re a society that wants to take advantage of every millisecond. We artificially stimulate ourselves, creating manic schedules, and then we get angry because we have no time left for ourselves, our families, or our friends. Essential needs are not being met—only artificial demands—and as a result we are kept in constant conflict. Most of us need less stimulation, fewer complications, less ambition.
Why do we have so many self-empowerment books, lectures, and workshops? Something’s missing, but people don’t know what it is. They just have some vague irritation from life not feeling as complete as it should. They should feel complete, they think, because of the commitment they’ve made up to this point. And it’s true that a lot of people have made strong commitments. The question arises that if we have all these people who are so successful in our culture—so rich, and so accomplished—why haven’t they connected with something that gives them a sense of completeness so that they can slow down, simplify their lives, and start looking at what they’ve actually achieved? Why can’t they deconstruct the toxic, reconstruct the positive, and then share it with others who can benefit from their efforts?
Isn’t the purpose of being connected to be able to make choices from a place of security and confidence rather than insecurity and fear? Shouldn’t connection free you from acting out of self-contempt? When you are connected you should no longer feel the need to abuse the body, mind, and spirit because you’re no longer confused about who you are and what you should do with this wonderful thing called life.
Visualize yourself in a coma. You have a hundred life-support systems going into you, each one feeding you something else to keep you alive. Through that, you’re told you have meaning because you’re alive. Well, how many people do you know, possibly including yourself, who are being kept alive by being figuratively hooked up like this to outside systems? You’re alive, but you’re not functioning at an optimal level because you’re not independent. You’re not autonomous. You’re not taking the appropriate risks necessary to reveal the uniqueness of your being.
At some point, we have to disconnect every single support system connected to our being. We must stand on our own and regain a sense of completeness in order to become illuminated on our own. Then, and only then, when we’re completely self-sufficient, will we feel connected to our inner creativity. That will open us up to a wonderful, mystical experience.
It’s so easy in our society to run out and become a part of something. Everybody likes to belong. (Like, “Hey, everyone, I got my Droid. I’m now a member of your club.”) We love connecting. But what if we connect to the wrong things? Think of all the things in your life you’ve connected to that you wish you hadn’t. What we have to do is disconnect from everything in order to reconnect with what is essential. We need to do it right, not superficially. That way we can reconnect to our essential self.
See yourself as a wonderful, multicolored light bulb meant to radiate at all different frequencies. Know that, like everyone else, you are unique, because no two lights are the same. All are capable of giving a sense of completeness. Know that nothing is too dense that the light of your illumination could not penetrate it. Hence all of life is transparent, and through that transparency you see the essential part of yourself and every other illuminated soul.
We have to stop always thinking that there’s someone or something missing from our life. What happened to simple living, where less can be more? We’re a society that wants to take advantage of every millisecond. We artificially stimulate ourselves, creating manic schedules, and then we get angry because we have no time left for ourselves, our families, or our friends. Essential needs are not being met—only artificial demands—and as a result we are kept in constant conflict. Most of us need less stimulation, fewer complications, less ambition.
Why do we have so many self-empowerment books, lectures, and workshops? Something’s missing, but people don’t know what it is. They just have some vague irritation from life not feeling as complete as it should. They should feel complete, they think, because of the commitment they’ve made up to this point. And it’s true that a lot of people have made strong commitments. The question arises that if we have all these people who are so successful in our culture—so rich, and so accomplished—why haven’t they connected with something that gives them a sense of completeness so that they can slow down, simplify their lives, and start looking at what they’ve actually achieved? Why can’t they deconstruct the toxic, reconstruct the positive, and then share it with others who can benefit from their efforts?
Isn’t the purpose of being connected to be able to make choices from a place of security and confidence rather than insecurity and fear? Shouldn’t connection free you from acting out of self-contempt? When you are connected you should no longer feel the need to abuse the body, mind, and spirit because you’re no longer confused about who you are and what you should do with this wonderful thing called life.
Visualize yourself in a coma. You have a hundred life-support systems going into you, each one feeding you something else to keep you alive. Through that, you’re told you have meaning because you’re alive. Well, how many people do you know, possibly including yourself, who are being kept alive by being figuratively hooked up like this to outside systems? You’re alive, but you’re not functioning at an optimal level because you’re not independent. You’re not autonomous. You’re not taking the appropriate risks necessary to reveal the uniqueness of your being.
At some point, we have to disconnect every single support system connected to our being. We must stand on our own and regain a sense of completeness in order to become illuminated on our own. Then, and only then, when we’re completely self-sufficient, will we feel connected to our inner creativity. That will open us up to a wonderful, mystical experience.
It’s so easy in our society to run out and become a part of something. Everybody likes to belong. (Like, “Hey, everyone, I got my Droid. I’m now a member of your club.”) We love connecting. But what if we connect to the wrong things? Think of all the things in your life you’ve connected to that you wish you hadn’t. What we have to do is disconnect from everything in order to reconnect with what is essential. We need to do it right, not superficially. That way we can reconnect to our essential self.
See yourself as a wonderful, multicolored light bulb meant to radiate at all different frequencies. Know that, like everyone else, you are unique, because no two lights are the same. All are capable of giving a sense of completeness. Know that nothing is too dense that the light of your illumination could not penetrate it. Hence all of life is transparent, and through that transparency you see the essential part of yourself and every other illuminated soul.
My biggest failure is relationships. I never let myself get intimately close with people, and if I do I end up pushing them away, pure selfishness. Looking back there are definitely a couple girls I wish I would've kept around
Yes. I feel like there is this void inside of me, that I am always trying to fill. Whether I'm filling it through alcohol, women, or working insane hours it is never enough. I always feel like there is one more thing to acomplish, one more thing to get and no matter what nothing is good enough. I feel I'm constantly trying to improve and out do myself.
I too hate failing, or not being the best at what I do. That is why I work so damn hard at everything I do.
Yes. I feel like there is this void inside of me, that I am always trying to fill. Whether I'm filling it through alcohol, women, or working insane hours it is never enough. I always feel like there is one more thing to acomplish, one more thing to get and no matter what nothing is good enough. I feel I'm constantly trying to improve and out do myself.
I too hate failing, or not being the best at what I do. That is why I work so damn hard at everything I do.
If anyone has 20 minutes watch this TED Talk. It's about a brain scientist who had a stroke and she recounts everything, a lot of left brain right brain talk. It's spiritual talk. Somewhat touches on what Jokerman was talking about.
One thing I've noticed is that people who are never satisfied with anything are pretty much never satisfied with themselves or happy with who they are. It's easy to say that's not true I'm happy with who I am but if you really break it down and think about it there are very few people who are happy with their being.
One thing I've noticed is that people who are never satisfied with anything are pretty much never satisfied with themselves or happy with who they are. It's easy to say that's not true I'm happy with who I am but if you really break it down and think about it there are very few people who are happy with their being.
I've thought about this quite a bit and for some time and have talked about with others who, as you guys, share my sentiments. I'm interested what the experts have to say on the matter. I'm not interested in those who make the diagnosis and then provide some corny, unnecessary self-empowerment advice, but I'm interested in articles/books that just simply write on the matter. Do you know of any?
Yeah man, check this out http://gudhak.org/flash/old school daft.swf
Yes, there's one book you should read. It's called the Holy Bible and it's the only one you need, my son.
But what more can be said about it? And who are experts on it? Psychologists? Buddhist monks? You already know what it feels like, and so many feel like that because they don't have balance in their life, and they are connected to wrong and non-essential things. Also, having so many choices adds to this dissatisfaction. There's many angles to the problem and just as many books. No one particular book comes to mind right now, but I'll let you know. I remember seeing articles online now and then that touch on the subject. I'll post the next one I see.
But what more can be said about it? And who are experts on it? Psychologists? Buddhist monks? You already know what it feels like, and so many feel like that because they don't have balance in their life, and they are connected to wrong and non-essential things. Also, having so many choices adds to this dissatisfaction. There's many angles to the problem and just as many books. No one particular book comes to mind right now, but I'll let you know. I remember seeing articles online now and then that touch on the subject. I'll post the next one I see.
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