Failures?
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I can't think of any serious failure right now except of one which was when I was a silly kid.
Yes well, when I was a little kid I was a little "bad boy" for some time lol. Actually a few years.
Now when I think back it was silly but hanging out with the worst kind was what I thought was cool, I enjoyed it.
And it's not the casual "smoking, drinking and cussing wannabe teenager thing". I did a lot of very stupid stuff I regret and it took me these few years to understand how stupid it was and how these people willingly failed at being capable humans while damaging the proper society and being worth less than nothing (literally). No, I wasn't harmed in no way by any of them. It was when I started realizing who they really were and how they were thinking when I thought that it's not the way I want to go.
It sort of made me what I am. It taught me a lot about people, about who I don't want to be and what to do to avoid that.
It changed me a lot - later it motivated me to study and be a different person as cheesy as it might sound. Actually I became the opposite of what impressed me back then and while my high school friends saw the transformation most of my latter friends would find that hard to believe.
Well, bad thing is that knowing how it works now I despise people who live their lives that way. Even when I see a "wannabe gangster" jerk it still makes my blood boil. Even people who are close to me who haven't been there don't understand that. Especially girls. I almost lost a good (girl)friend of mine who dated a lowlife jerk like that. It was pissing me off because everybody thought that he was a cool guy. And like always it ended with me wanting to say "I told ya". Brings back memories I guess.
[+]Ha also I once dissed the shit out of my classmate's ex-girlfriend who dumped him for some random jerk because she though that he was "more interesting". I was like: "Bitch, my classmate is a very intelligent guy with various interests that he collected throughout his whole life, he even wrote a book because he was a history passionate well respected in their own little society and you think that he's boring? More boring than someone who's a total idiot with no knowledge on anything other than local beers, does absolutely nothing about his live, wakes up with the same plan (if he even plans anything) - to end the day while being drunk and get some ass".
Well, didn't work. That's when I learned that expressing reasonable opinions is not always the best thing to do. Everyone said that I was right but anyway they were mad at me, including my classmate.
Yes well, when I was a little kid I was a little "bad boy" for some time lol. Actually a few years.
Now when I think back it was silly but hanging out with the worst kind was what I thought was cool, I enjoyed it.
And it's not the casual "smoking, drinking and cussing wannabe teenager thing". I did a lot of very stupid stuff I regret and it took me these few years to understand how stupid it was and how these people willingly failed at being capable humans while damaging the proper society and being worth less than nothing (literally). No, I wasn't harmed in no way by any of them. It was when I started realizing who they really were and how they were thinking when I thought that it's not the way I want to go.
It sort of made me what I am. It taught me a lot about people, about who I don't want to be and what to do to avoid that.
It changed me a lot - later it motivated me to study and be a different person as cheesy as it might sound. Actually I became the opposite of what impressed me back then and while my high school friends saw the transformation most of my latter friends would find that hard to believe.
Well, bad thing is that knowing how it works now I despise people who live their lives that way. Even when I see a "wannabe gangster" jerk it still makes my blood boil. Even people who are close to me who haven't been there don't understand that. Especially girls. I almost lost a good (girl)friend of mine who dated a lowlife jerk like that. It was pissing me off because everybody thought that he was a cool guy. And like always it ended with me wanting to say "I told ya". Brings back memories I guess.
[+]Ha also I once dissed the shit out of my classmate's ex-girlfriend who dumped him for some random jerk because she though that he was "more interesting". I was like: "Bitch, my classmate is a very intelligent guy with various interests that he collected throughout his whole life, he even wrote a book because he was a history passionate well respected in their own little society and you think that he's boring? More boring than someone who's a total idiot with no knowledge on anything other than local beers, does absolutely nothing about his live, wakes up with the same plan (if he even plans anything) - to end the day while being drunk and get some ass".
Well, didn't work. That's when I learned that expressing reasonable opinions is not always the best thing to do. Everyone said that I was right but anyway they were mad at me, including my classmate.
my failures- not working hard enough at school, college and university. i wasnt exactly a genius, but i definitely had way more potential than i ever showed. and now im stuck with no money and no job, while my friends are earning at least 25k and will be on 40k+ in the near future.. im currently looking at jobs paying 13k-15k. hindsight is 20/20 as a muh'fucka
well the main thing i can think of that may be considered a failure was in fact my greatest success.
It was my girlfriend breaking up with me, which was very hard to get her to do surprisingly. Every time she broke up with me she would change her mind before i could pack up all my stuff and get it to the car, so the last time she did it i already had my shit strategically packed so i could grab it and get the fuck out of there.
so anyway since becoming single and back home with my parents my life has improved so much. im making $900 a week after tax, having a lot of fun with my friends, feeling a lot healthier and im back on streethop.
It was my girlfriend breaking up with me, which was very hard to get her to do surprisingly. Every time she broke up with me she would change her mind before i could pack up all my stuff and get it to the car, so the last time she did it i already had my shit strategically packed so i could grab it and get the fuck out of there.
so anyway since becoming single and back home with my parents my life has improved so much. im making $900 a week after tax, having a lot of fun with my friends, feeling a lot healthier and im back on streethop.
Socially:
I let a few of my friends know too much about my last relationship and because of that, we are no longer friends. I now realized, not only were they holding me back, but I was too busy helping them, when they didn't even help me. So now, I'm helping myself out, and I've noticed a big change. I keep shit to myself now with my new friends.
athletic:
I regret not actively pursuing my football scholarship. Everyone was telling me that I was too skinny and too short, yet there are guys my height in the NFL that did it. I'm very good at football too. =/
academic
I regret giving up on some semesters. I dunno why I could handle 19 units one semester, and only 7 the next. I was stupid, now it's taking me a bit longer. My main regret though, is not seeing a councelor and having everything set up. Instead, I just went by what I needed to take not what i should have in a specific order.
relationships
lol.
I let a few of my friends know too much about my last relationship and because of that, we are no longer friends. I now realized, not only were they holding me back, but I was too busy helping them, when they didn't even help me. So now, I'm helping myself out, and I've noticed a big change. I keep shit to myself now with my new friends.
athletic:
I regret not actively pursuing my football scholarship. Everyone was telling me that I was too skinny and too short, yet there are guys my height in the NFL that did it. I'm very good at football too. =/
academic
I regret giving up on some semesters. I dunno why I could handle 19 units one semester, and only 7 the next. I was stupid, now it's taking me a bit longer. My main regret though, is not seeing a councelor and having everything set up. Instead, I just went by what I needed to take not what i should have in a specific order.
relationships
lol.
I was really ill from the age of 9 until about 20. From 9 until 12 I didn't do anything. Didn't go out with friends. Just went to schoool, which is an achievement in itself, and laid on the sofa. From 12 until 20, I was betterbut only at about 60%. From 20 until mid 20's I was at about 75%. I had an op in 2006 which has me running at 90% and I am pretty happy with that.
However it has altered my perception on life. And I feel I am a lot deeper because of it. I am aware this doesn't come across on SH, and probably doesn't come across to my friends... Except the times in my past when on charlie, and I can blame the cocaine for that.
However it has altered my perception on life. And I feel I am a lot deeper because of it. I am aware this doesn't come across on SH, and probably doesn't come across to my friends... Except the times in my past when on charlie, and I can blame the cocaine for that.
Choosing psychology as my major. There's no fucking future in that field unless you have amazing grades (which I don't have, although I am improving my gpa so get a masters in something else).
That changed me cause I always wanted to be a psychologist, but now it's no longer an option. I now want to be a counsellor or something like that in a school.
That changed me cause I always wanted to be a psychologist, but now it's no longer an option. I now want to be a counsellor or something like that in a school.
I'd say that my biggest failure was not growing a pair of balls, manning up, and choosing an area of study I was truly passionate in. I've finished my degree, but didn't pull the best results. Doesn't really mean much in way of career, as my career is pretty much on track. But in my own mind, I could have done a lot better had I chosen something not as bland and mundane as economics. I also had a Marketing major, which was more interesting, but it was still quite uninteresting bar a few units which were relevant, practical and interesting. The economics killed me. But I was never brave enough to perhaps transfer, or do something else.
My biggest failure would be maintaining a balance in my life. When your life is in some form of equilibrium, you function at your best, and at your highest potential. Your overall satisfaction with life rises drastically. That's my experience anyway. By balance I mean balancing time with your girlfriend / boyfriend, family, friends, work, and most importantly, for yourself. Time alone is important, and if you don't get enough of it, you feel sluggish. At the moment I'm struggling a lot to maintain a balance, but am failing, and it's affecting my life in a very negative way. But I'm aware of this, so I can overcome it.
I generally fail at being satisfied and content. I think it may be a generational thing (as in, generation Y), as I constantly feel restless, dissatisfied, and always yearning for something else.. something more. I am very appreciative for what I have, but for some reason, I can't seem to escape this incessant feeling of dissatisfaction.. always wanting something else. Thinking I'll only be happy if I do this, or have that (not just material things..). Can anyone relate? I find that to be a big failure of mine.
My biggest failure would be maintaining a balance in my life. When your life is in some form of equilibrium, you function at your best, and at your highest potential. Your overall satisfaction with life rises drastically. That's my experience anyway. By balance I mean balancing time with your girlfriend / boyfriend, family, friends, work, and most importantly, for yourself. Time alone is important, and if you don't get enough of it, you feel sluggish. At the moment I'm struggling a lot to maintain a balance, but am failing, and it's affecting my life in a very negative way. But I'm aware of this, so I can overcome it.
I generally fail at being satisfied and content. I think it may be a generational thing (as in, generation Y), as I constantly feel restless, dissatisfied, and always yearning for something else.. something more. I am very appreciative for what I have, but for some reason, I can't seem to escape this incessant feeling of dissatisfaction.. always wanting something else. Thinking I'll only be happy if I do this, or have that (not just material things..). Can anyone relate? I find that to be a big failure of mine.
This sounds a little funny but you should really read the interview Cornel West did with Playboy, I'm pretty sure it's the newest issue. He speaks about how young people are sort of manipulated to go after certain things that really mean nothing and have goals that would accomplish nothing etc... You'd probably like it
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