my masculinity is threatened.

ill-matic

Well-Known Member
#1
months ago i was fired from this job i had for eating their chocolates. the deputy store manager @ the time escorted me out of the store. naturally me and him arent on good terms cos he was an arrogant cock sucker. so now hes store manager of a store in a diff location. i know some girls that work there so i regularly go in to talk to them. one of them im really close with.

anyway he sees me, comes up to me and says "hey phil.. its nice to see you again.. but if youre not buying anything its probably better if you dont talk to the staff and distracting them from serving customers."

at the time i didnt give a shit. i was like, whatever, i had to get back to work cos it was during my lunch break anyway. it didnt bother me in the least, and i thought it was somewhat fair of him to say that because it's not professional to be talking to them and distracting them from their roles.

so i say bye to the girls, and make my way back to work. the girl im really close to decides, for some reason, to build a case FOR me - and reported the dude to Human Resources @ the Head Office to lodge and "official complaint" because of his treatment of a "customer" (which was me). i didnt ask her to do shit, and i can handle myself without any help. so i was kind of like "why the fuck did you do that"?

she told me that because im considered a customer, he shouldnt tell ME to get out but should tell THEM to get back to work - implying that he has a vendetta against me because of when i got fired months ago. at the time it didnt really cross my mind...so i didnt really have any reaction or response to it but as i think about it now it makes sense.

anyway he arranges a meeting with her - apparently babbling on about how much of a great dude i am and that he has no issues with me, but she tells me that she virtually told him off for what he did, saying it was wrong bla bla bla.

but to me i feel like its a kick in the nuts. heres this girl taking up the case for me when even tho i didnt tell her to, telling him off and creating this whole massive deal out of it. she blew it out of proportion. she kept ranting on about how "he wouldnt mess with her" and how "he had nothing to say" etc.. and i couldnt help but feel that she thinks im some sort of wimp who needs her to defend himself.
 

Casey

Well-Known Member
Staff member
#3
Dude we are living in 2008. You are not a Neanderthal caveman.

Let go of your notions of masculinity, that whole hunter gatherer shit is played out and doesn't matter any more.

Women, and people in general, are not only there to help you out when you decide you need it. In fact, that mentality reeks of chauvinism, and I'm not trying to call you out here but if you seriously feel that your masculinity is threatened then you need to pull your head out of your ass.

Appreciate her gesture. Most people don't stick up for others. Be thankful she did.

I'll let you in on a secret. She absolutely does not think you are "some sort of wimp". She has seen what she deems to be an injustice to a friend and has taken steps to make it right. That means she is a good person.
 

ARon

Well-Known Member
#5
I agree with both of you. I almost don't want to take you post serious ill-matic, I really don't see how you would think that.
 

ill-matic

Well-Known Member
#8
I agree with both of you. I almost don't want to take you post serious ill-matic, I really don't see how you would think that.
what do you want me to say? im a bitch ass nigga. i suffer from anxiety, and i have severe bouts of depression. one day im king of the world, and the next, im afraid to go outside because im paranoid, or feel self conscious. im on medication for this.
 

ARon

Well-Known Member
#9
Lol no.... There is nothing to say, she was standing up for you big deal. How that threatens your masculinity is beyond me.
 

keco52

Well-Known Member
Staff member
#10
what do you want me to say? im a bitch ass nigga. i suffer from anxiety, and i have severe bouts of depression. one day im king of the world, and the next, im afraid to go outside because im paranoid, or feel self conscious. im on medication for this.
You didn't have to drop that bomb on us.

It's not just about masculinity. I'm the same way...I have a big ego and I might be a lil mad if someone was trying to "fight my battles" but you gotta get over it. U overthink stuff too much. I do that sometimes when I'm stressed.
 

S O F I

Administrator
Staff member
#12
Dude we are living in 2008. You are not a Neanderthal caveman.

Let go of your notions of masculinity, that whole hunter gatherer shit is played out and doesn't matter any more.

Women, and people in general, are not only there to help you out when you decide you need it. In fact, that mentality reeks of chauvinism, and I'm not trying to call you out here but if you seriously feel that your masculinity is threatened then you need to pull your head out of your ass.

Appreciate her gesture. Most people don't stick up for others. Be thankful she did.

I'll let you in on a secret. She absolutely does not think you are "some sort of wimp". She has seen what she deems to be an injustice to a friend and has taken steps to make it right. That means she is a good person.
Agreed.

I agree with both of you. I almost don't want to take you post serious ill-matic, I really don't see how you would think that.
Agreed. I wouldn't make that conclusion.


Also, to add my 2 cents in, in your position, I would oppose what she did not because of my ego, but because I inerently disagree with the way she acted. It seems to me that she dislikes him as a manager and was looking to pin anything she can on him. But, the less immediate and still significant benefit of her doing that is that she knew, or thought, you'd appreciate it.

But, that's just the cynic in me.
 
#14
If I were you illmatic I would get behind her and put my complaint in.

Find out who this guys boss his and put in a letter of grievance.
It would be a cool twist of fate to get him fired.
 

linx

Well-Known Member
Staff member
#15
I want 30 seconds of my life back for reading this. It seems like something that ain't even close to a big deal. Forget about it.
 

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