Bullying

[Synful*Luv]

I was bullied in primary school for a brief stint during 6th or 7th grade by some fat little thing with no hair and bad skin already (before puberty!). But it happened, I still had friends so it wasn't that big of a deal. Mostly she was just jealous.

I found out, like last year or so that I was a bully in HS. I ended up doing a bit of time in public school but I already had all the credits I needed to graduate from HS from private school so I was mostly bored. I was pretty friendly with most everyone (from what I remember) but apparently there was two girls who's life I made hell. I barely even remember them honestly, which makes the situation even worst. I've apologized to one girl (found her on FB) but can't find the other. I hear she may have committed suicide. Quite awful, but I still try to locate her from time to time.

 

[masta247]

No, I was always a liked, peaceful kid. I didn't bully anyone and I was never really bullied. I used to dislike bullying and I was the "knight in the shining armor" for people I liked who were bullied for stupid reasons, usually because they didn't do anything about it lol.

Is it me or were there already like 10 similar threads?

 

[keco52]

This thread reminded me that I had another bully in 6th grade. She was fat and her name was Audrey. In English class if you got there first you kid sit on the futon and do your work instead of sitting at a desk. I got there early one time (when I say ONE time I really mean one time...I'm never on time for anything) and put my bag on the futon so I could sit there. I left to sharpen my pencil and her big ass was in my seat when I got back. She had thrown my bag on the floor. I should have used my one assault charge on her.

I got her back when we had to pick a figurative speech phrase and draw it. She asked me to draw a horse and I made it ugly on purpose. :noworry:

 

[ARon]

Was never bullied. I never really bullied anyone, my friends and I would make fun of each other constantly though and if you were just hanging around you got caught up in that but it was just for fun so no one ever got hurt feelings. I've fought defending people getting bullied though, this one dude used to fuck with a retarded kid a lot, he even kicked a walking stick out of this blind girl's hand, i beat him up, it was cool.

That same retarded kid I was defending once knocked me out in weight lifting class by throwing a weight at me and hitting me in the head.

 

[Tha_Wood]

its odd that not many people here bullied kids at school.

 

[EDouble]

TB would be a perfect world if it had more bitches

 

[dilla]

TB would be a perfect world if it had more bitches

You mean other than you?

 

[Preach]

I've apologized to one girl (found her on FB) but can't find the other. I hear she may have committed suicide. Quite awful, but I still try to locate her from time to time.

Not gonna get all up in your hair but the whole idea with apologizing to someone you've bullied is a concept that has been glorified in high school movies, but to be honest, I think you do more damage than what you repair. Most people manage to get past stuff in their own way and don't want the world to feel bad for them, having someone pity you is not a very good feeling. If you have had problems with your self-esteem in your youth, someone's pity can take you right back to those feelings. It is a way to make a person feel very small and helpless without intending to do so.

Then again, some times I guess an apology can go the other way around aswell. What happened when you apologized to that one person on FB? I'm just curious how they reacted or what happened after? Do you talk?

 

[Synful*Luv]

Not gonna get all up in your hair but the whole idea with apologizing to someone you've bullied is a concept that has been glorified in high school movies, but to be honest, I think you do more damage than what you repair. Most people manage to get past stuff in their own way and don't want the world to feel bad for them, having someone pity you is not a very good feeling. If you have had problems with your self-esteem in your youth, someone's pity can take you right back to those feelings. It is a way to make a person feel very small and helpless without intending to do so.

Then again, some times I guess an apology can go the other way around aswell. What happened when you apologized to that one person on FB? I'm just curious how they reacted or what happened after? Do you talk?

Um.. I actually took her out to dinner and discussed the situation with her. I told her I'd answer any questions she might have or if she wanted to just scream at me.. she could do that as well. (TBH I thought i'd end up in a parking lot fight at the Cheesecake Factory and even then I was only worried about the embarrassment of being an adult fighting lol). IDK... I think it went over rather well. She said she had a lot of things she wanted to ask me and a lot of things she didn't understand. She said it helped (IDK if she was being honest or not). Maybe some people get over these things.. but i don't think everyone does or can. Especially since this was like junior and senior year of HS.. she was like 18 so it was much more recent as opposed to something in her distant past.

I didn't pity her at all.. I felt as if I needed to try to apologize for my awful behavior. We don't talk much, we are friends on FB.. but we still don't have anything in common. I just am not the same person I was back then and don't feel a need to pick on or dislike people with different life choices from me.

 

[Preach]

That's really cool :thumb:

When you said found her on facebook I thought you like just sent her a quick message on there haha

 

[Ristol]

Exactly, synful*luv: making amends does more for your conscience than it does for her well-being. That doesn't make it bad.

 

[Pittsey]

I apologised to a guy I used to beat up a lot. I was in a club, he was with his girlfriend and I was trying to get in with her friend. I told him I was sorry. At the time I meant it. I am a happy drunk.

But in reality I want to beat him up again. He's annoying.

 

[Synful*Luv]

That's really cool :thumb:

When you said found her on facebook I thought you like just sent her a quick message on there haha

Well, yeah I did originally.. but just to set things up and see if she even cared or wanted to be bothered. It was very possible that she didn't, lol.

Exactly, synful*luv: making amends does more for your conscience than it does for her well-being. That doesn't make it bad.

Um.. not necessarily. While it certainly isn't something i'm proud of.. it wasn't weighing heavily on my conscience either. It was just the right thing to do, IMO.

 

[Ristol]

Oh, so it serves no purpose except some vague cosmic justice? Okay. I like what I said better.

 

[dilla]

Got a tickle in your anus? Dip a Q-Tip in rubbing alcohol and stick it up your balloon knot. Problem solved.