Well here goes

[k69atie]

Some of you already know, that I was involved with someone off the board, anyway we were involved for about 2 1/2 months. I started to like him a lot so I asked him where I stood, he told me he never considered us a couple, he just wanted it to fun. Anyway I told him if it was just going to be fun, then I didn't want to see him again.


He said it was "a shame" and asked me if he could still drop me a line every now and then, I said this was ok. Anyway he has emailed and text me a few times since it all happened a couple of weeks ago, and I just can't get my head round it, and I know you are all going to think I am really lame, but I really liked him and I can't stop thinking about him!! ARGH!!! I hate this! Why does this always happen to me? I knew before I asked him what he would say, so why do i always do this to myself?

 

[_carmi]

arggh thats sucks. no ur not lame. things like this happen. i wonder who's that person from 2pacboard. but i'm too curious. there's plenty of boys around u, ur pretty, if he doesnt want u more than for fun, then dont waste ur time and look somewhere else.

 

[k69atie]

^ Thanks girl, i just can't help thinking it is me.

Doesn't help that everyone i know is all loved up

 

[_carmi]

things happen sometimes to some person, sometimes it happens to ourself. all we can do about it is to live through it and grow stronger of it.

 

[k69atie]

I know, but this always happens to me

 

[_carmi]

no that aint true. it happened to me last year. and it happens to a lot of people i can guarantee u.

 

[k69atie]

I have been single for 2 years and in that time i have met a few people, but justy never clicked with them, i just thought he was different.

it was tone capone by the way

 

[_carmi]

aww cheer up girl the next one might be the good one. dont lose all hopes.

 

[Beautiful Angel]

FUCK EM!!!

you don't need him, hell you don't need him in your life at all
he is shit!!!

you will be happy katie, we've discussed this many times!
just keep your head up

kel

 

[k69atie]

aww cheer up girl the next one might be the good one. dont lose all hopes.

I hope so, Thanks girl

 

[Amara]

He said it was "a shame" and asked me if he could still drop me a line every now and then, I said this was ok. Anyway he has emailed and text me a few times since it all happened a couple of weeks ago, and I just can't get my head round it, and I know you are all going to think I am really lame, but I really liked him and I can't stop thinking about him!! ARGH!!! I hate this! Why does this always happen to me? I knew before I asked him what he would say, so why do i always do this to myself?

I dont think there is an easy answer as to why we do things like that to ourselves - I went through the same thing several times before I came across someone where it turned out good. I think it may be a universal female trait, lol. (Strangely enough I saw it on a repeat of 'sex and the city' last night... you know carrie and the russian... starts out fine then you cant fight the urge to question - where is this going, what am i doing, am i wasting my time, why am i being left in the dark...).

If you really like him, then there's nothing wrong with emailing back, maybe catching up.... although be cautious of being hurt. I know its difficult being a situation where you feel you are out of control, but sometimes the feeling of liking someone and having a little bit of attention can be fun in themselves even if it doesnt lead as far as we would like. Having said that, I do feel that if you like someone you shouldnt have to push for it... but ultimately only you know what is going to make you happiest right now, whether its waiting for something better or just enjoying what you have now (perhaps with time and patience it may grow in the future, who knows).

 

[k69atie]

^ Thanks, I have been emailing him /texting him back it just seems weird, he is acting as if nothing has happened! Oh well

 

[shattered dreams]

Man girl dont even let this asshole get you down. You are gorgeous you could get so many guys that would treat you right. My advice would be to let them come to you, and not to search. So what if your single for two years, Many of women have been single for a lot longer than that. And instead of being stressed out about love, and finding more (which i know what your feeling) dont worry so much, worry about being happy within yourself by yourself. Dont let a guy determine if your happy or not. And once you do that, any guy that treats you wrong you will throw away, like a high heel with a broken heel(well at least sometimes you can repare those guys you cant). And after you boot them out enough times, you will find the one that will treat you right. It just takes time.

Dont be down, get around! =)

 

[k69atie]

^^ LOl thanks girl

 

[Synful*Luv]

orDon't worry about it Katie, we'll find some sexy men in Vegas this summer when you get here!

It's not just you, it happens to all of us, i've been there before and then it causes you to keep your guard up, and then when you finally meet a really nice man, you'll be worried that he'll treat you bad, it's a no win situation, I don't know what to tell you, except forget about it, things like this happen.

Just learn and move on.

Some more advice I can give you is always ask up front, like now when I meet guys, I always ask them, what are you looking for? That way everything is straight forward in the beginning with no suprises, and if I can't get a straight answer out of him, I don't talk to him.

 

[k69atie]

^ good idea, thanks

 

[Helena]

I always ask them, what are you looking for? That way everything is straight forward in the beginning with no suprises, and if I can't get a straight answer out of him, I don't talk to him.

exactly what i do! get a srtaight answer from the start. that way you know what to expect so u won't be disappointed later on. good luck babe!

 

[k69atie]

^ thanks i need to start doing this