My dad (63) has been diagnosed with liver cancer. Doctors have said 12 months, statistically. Im on the other side of the world and while I've had my moments it all feels surreal.
Got an update for us?
Everyone said Mother's Day was going to be tough, but it wasn't as bad as I was assuming it was going to be. My dad, sis, and I went out to eat at Nando's (lol) and roamed around the mall my mom used to frequent on the weekends. Did some small shopping and that was it. We teared up a few times talking about her but overall we were not moping about and staying indoors doing nothing.
Gave me a new layer of perspective of when you go out and see people. Plenty of folks were out, probably with out their mothers. Or children. For different reasons. And there were probably plenty of mothers out there dealing with sadness or a "different" mother's day than years past. It only hit me when I made a remark amongst us three if people were subsconsciously noticing we weren't with a mom. Then I realized that some people there were alive and well but it was still a somber day despite "being a mom."
My mom's sisters reached out to us and gave some warm, heartfelt messages. It must still be weighing on them to think of us on mother's day.
This wasn't the first mother's day we didn't celebrate, funny enough. Last year my mom had a CVA event for just a few seconds but we took her to the hospital anyway and she spent 3-5 days getting work ups done. She was clear and certainly not "sickly" but the day was ruined waiting in the hospital. Who knew it would be our last together.
On a more positive note, hope you guys did something fun.