Social Etiquette

[Bender]

This subject is widely varied I'm sure one can agree, and would need a Yellow pages book if we were to cover it all (maybe). Manners come into everybodys lives in different ways at different times and how we act can sometimes have a profound effect on our relationships with other people.

Sure all cultures have different views on this subject, and the HSBC copmmercial springs to mind (the guy in the bar with the OK hand gesture to the bartender has just unintentionally nominated himself to be on someones shit list).

I got to thinking about this today when I compared thoughts on peoples behaviour in the street:

I'm sure it's seen less nowadays and is probably considered old fashioned but what happened to people lifting off their hats when they passed each other in the street? So they might not wear hat's but they keep them on if they do.

Youths nowadays focus their entire vocabulary with sentences around obscenities. "Fuck this/ muthafucka that" and the old people arent innocent either. In my opinion it's because of them our manners to each other are sliding downhill.

I don't know what other people think or do themselves but I am one who will use please and thankyou, or the more commonly heard 'Cheers' about's my community.

 

[CalcuoCuchicheo]

First & foremost, I will be generally polite to everyone unless they have done somethig to cause me to feel that they don't deserve politeness.

I will say please & thank you when I feel someone has done something selfless or if there is a fair exchange of sorts. When someone 'helps' me strictly for their own benefit, I will be loosely mannerly.

Manners just ain't that important to a lot of people nowadays.....

 

[Amara]

You are so right Yeshua, manners have gone downhil. One thing that really bugs me is that when I catch public transport here, all the kids take up the seats rather than give them up to older people...I mean, that is basic etiquette. There was even a pregnant woman standing, and no-one moved - it was shameful. (I made sure she took my seat though and you could tell she was grateful). Certainly in terms of language, the standards have dropped, but I am guilty of this myself... how rare is it to hear the word "pardon" instead of the much less eloquent, "what?"

 

[Illuminattile]

You are so right Yeshua, manners have gone downhil. One thing that really bugs me is that when I catch public transport here, all the kids take up the seats rather than give them up to older people...I mean, that is basic etiquette.

Did they say "Cheers" to the bus driver as they got off?

 

[Amara]

^ nah. lol. Dunno why not, we have nice bus drivers in south australia.

 

[Bender]

First & foremost, I will be generally polite to everyone unless they have done somethig to cause me to feel that they don't deserve politeness.

I will say please & thank you when I feel someone has done something selfless or if there is a fair exchange of sorts. When someone 'helps' me strictly for their own benefit, I will be loosely mannerly.

Manners just ain't that important to a lot of people nowadays.....

I will say please and thankyou to even my enemies unless emotion sways me otherwise.

I belive in do unto to others as you would yourself - so I guess I give the impression that I can be too good to be true.



Also there are people who hold it against someone who breaks the rules of politeness, wtf is that about?

 

[feichen]

as long as u dont act rude, u dont have to act extremely nice.
i agree that manners have gone downhill.

for example, i came back at kindergarten... and white kids were just swearing to eachother and to their mothers about sexual things and i dont know what else....
they were a bad influence for all the other kids too. i was really shocked to see what i heard cuz not that long ago (12 years ago) i was in that same kindergarten and never even knew those words that were spoken. one kid even called me names for staring strange at them lol.

 

[Bender]

...one kid even called me names for staring strange at them lol.

What you doing staring at little kids? I sense they are on to you.






But seriously, the little shits know everything. A quote from Oscar Wilde is "I am not young enough to know everything." It looks to be as though our human intellect is evolving/improving and loosing all politeness with it.

 

[CalcuoCuchicheo]

What you doing staring at little kids? I sense they are on to you.

LOL!

What Amara said about public transport, that is a good point. Using public transport gives you an ideal opportunity to see how people interact with each other - verbally & physically. There are some who will not give up their seat for an elderly person but I don't see it happen too often & the ones who usually do it lack the intelligence to even udnerstand what manners are - honestly.

Btw, how old do we sound in this thread?

 

[Zero Cool]

There are some who will not give up their seat for an elderly person but I don't see it happen too often & the ones who usually do it lack the intelligence to even udnerstand what manners are - honestly.

I see that happen all the time.

 

[devils_advok8]

Etiquette?I'm usually nice and say "thanks", "you're welcome", "fuck you" whenever I feel like the timing is appropriate.
Class?I dont think so.Like, personally, I'm the type of person who doesnt care if he was seen at the back of a pick up with 9 sheep for company

 

[Zero Cool]

Etiquette?I'm usually nice and say "thanks", "you're welcome", "fuck you" whenever I feel like the timing is appropriate.
Class?I dont think so.Like, personally, I'm the type of person who doesnt care if he was seen at the back of a pick up sitting there with 9 sheeps around him.

Sheep (pl.) There's no such word as "sheeps" lol

 

[devils_advok8]

Sheep (pl.) There's no such word as "sheeps" lol

you would've seen the edited post if you werent stalking me, Gavano

 

[CalcuoCuchicheo]

I see that happen all the time.

Just wondering, is it dumb fucks who do it, or do you see people who you know to be reasonable, refusing to give up their seat?

If it is the former, then the teaching of basic values could help.
If it is the latter, there is something inherently wrong.

 

[Zero Cool]

Just wondering, is it dumb fucks who do it, or do you see people who you know to be reasonable, refusing to give up their seat?

If it is the former, then the teaching of basic values could help.
If it is the latter, there is something inherently wrong.

For the most part it's the dumb fucks however I have seen people from who you would expect otherwise do it regularly.