Okay, I've been seeing this guy for like a year and a half. The first 6 months of our relationship were good, we had minor fights, but nothing too bad but then we broke up in April and we had an on and off relationship until July.
I had gotten back from a trip and so had he and since things had been so bad between us we were in that happy make up phase. Anywho, he was going to his friend's wedding in Stockholm and when he came back he started to act weird. I found notes in his pockets and this girl was sending him text messages saying how much she liked him and blahblah. I was like okay, he had met someone while he was at the wedding so then I asked him about it and he was like: "yeah but you knew this had to happen and I really like her and she's so much more like me" but that he hadn't touched her or anything. I basically told him to go fuck himself and we didn't speak for over a month.
I kept seeing his friends but I never saw him until one day I was at the supermarket and when he saw me he kept trying to get my attention but I ignored him and went home and cried my eyes out. A couple of days later he messaged me and we started talking and he was saying he missed me and he wanted what we had had and that he had thought about what it would be like when we would see each other (I live in a small town, it's inevitable). I told him how I felt and said that it was hard for me to trust him again and then we decided to meet the next day and talk about it.
Well, we did talk and that's not all lol. And after this, things have been so good between us. He really works hard at showing me how much he cares about me but I'm still jealous and I keep thinking he will find someone who's better than me.
I am younger than him and I think he feels like I'm not "experienced enough" to want to stay with him so he's not sure if he can't count on me being there for a longer time. Like two weeks ago I asked him if he was happy with what we had and he said he was but that it bothered him that he is older than me and that right now he didn't see our relationship as something that would last long. I asked him why we even bother with it if he doesn't think it will last and I clearly told him that I am not intrested in being his little hobby until he finds someone that he can see himself with in the future. He said it isn't like that. He said he's not intrested in finding someone else, that he really cares for me and does not see me as a substitute and that the age difference might not bother him in the future as much.
The problem is that even though I trust what he said, I'm paranoid as fuck. Everytime he gets a text message or his phone rings I get jealous and I know he has a lot of female friends who I shouldn't be jealous of because I know them but still... He knows how I feel about this and he has repeatedly tried to calm me down and deep down I know it's nothing and that I'm the only one he has feelings for. I don't want him to think I don't trust him but I really can't help it.
I had gotten back from a trip and so had he and since things had been so bad between us we were in that happy make up phase. Anywho, he was going to his friend's wedding in Stockholm and when he came back he started to act weird. I found notes in his pockets and this girl was sending him text messages saying how much she liked him and blahblah. I was like okay, he had met someone while he was at the wedding so then I asked him about it and he was like: "yeah but you knew this had to happen and I really like her and she's so much more like me" but that he hadn't touched her or anything. I basically told him to go fuck himself and we didn't speak for over a month.
I kept seeing his friends but I never saw him until one day I was at the supermarket and when he saw me he kept trying to get my attention but I ignored him and went home and cried my eyes out. A couple of days later he messaged me and we started talking and he was saying he missed me and he wanted what we had had and that he had thought about what it would be like when we would see each other (I live in a small town, it's inevitable). I told him how I felt and said that it was hard for me to trust him again and then we decided to meet the next day and talk about it.
Well, we did talk and that's not all lol. And after this, things have been so good between us. He really works hard at showing me how much he cares about me but I'm still jealous and I keep thinking he will find someone who's better than me.
I am younger than him and I think he feels like I'm not "experienced enough" to want to stay with him so he's not sure if he can't count on me being there for a longer time. Like two weeks ago I asked him if he was happy with what we had and he said he was but that it bothered him that he is older than me and that right now he didn't see our relationship as something that would last long. I asked him why we even bother with it if he doesn't think it will last and I clearly told him that I am not intrested in being his little hobby until he finds someone that he can see himself with in the future. He said it isn't like that. He said he's not intrested in finding someone else, that he really cares for me and does not see me as a substitute and that the age difference might not bother him in the future as much.
The problem is that even though I trust what he said, I'm paranoid as fuck. Everytime he gets a text message or his phone rings I get jealous and I know he has a lot of female friends who I shouldn't be jealous of because I know them but still... He knows how I feel about this and he has repeatedly tried to calm me down and deep down I know it's nothing and that I'm the only one he has feelings for. I don't want him to think I don't trust him but I really can't help it.
