anger management

[_carmi]

these days or should i say these months i have anger management problems. i just can get angry at anything. now here's my situation:

-i have 2 sisters that all they wanna do is make my life miserable, they scream at me, tell me to go to hell. they have 11 and 13 years old and they team up against me. all i feel to do is really beat them up.
-my mom is a fucking headache. she'll be yelling at me for anything. but when i mean anything, i'm not exagerating. i can't stand her. plus she know by bf is now having his own place and it pisses her off and she's scared that i could leave the house so she plays the "i dont give a fuck" attitude and tryies to make me even more pissed off that i already am with my sisters.
-my dad will do anything to make my mom happy. himself is not happy that i have a bf and that + he has his own place. this said, he refuses to let me sleep at his place. he thinks my bf all he thinks he's to screw me and that i'll end up pregnant with the bf running away. i told him its so not gonna happen. but whatever. pus he'll side with my sisters whenever.

my family is killing me. i dont wanna leave the house, i love them all and it would kill them all if i'd leave that i know for a fact. but i just cant stand them anymore. they are making my life more miserable each and every day. i'm tired of being down and depressed because of them. really i dont wanna be down. now i get angry at anybody for nothing. even my bf told me i had kinda change these last weeks. and i know that thats true. i definitly changed these weeks, became weird, down, angry for nothing

 

[k69atie]

I really don't know what to say Maybe you should go and see a dr? maybe they could help, there could be a cimple explaination

 

[shattered dreams]

i got a simple helpful hint that would hurt for me

tell your sisters to shut the fuck up and chase them with a broom, and tell them your about to shove it up their ass if they dont shut up.

ignore your mother, or when shes bitching, start singing (that always is a winner with my mom)

Your dad, well hes your dad and hes worried about you, but when it comes to him taking sides with your sisters take it out on your sisters.

If that doesnt work, buy a punching bag.

 

[k69atie]

^^^ yeah a punch bag is a good idea, my brother used to have one, was well good for taking my anger out in!

 

[shattered dreams]

Yeah, i dont have a punching bag, so needless to say i still have repairs to do on my walls. im a touch cookie...arggg haha nah for real or if you dont like punching, buy a cd that has that fight mode and work out. that works for me as well, but maybe because my anger is worse than two male bulls in a seperate pen the a mensturating bull.

 

[_carmi]

i got a simple helpful hint that would hurt for me

tell your sisters to shut the fuck up and chase them with a broom, and tell them your about to shove it up their ass if they dont shut up.

already tried. just ended up worst my sisters went to my mother and then my mom was yelling again telling me if i keep up being this way shes gon kick me out of the house.

ignore your mother, or when shes bitching, start singing (that always is a winner with my mom)

did that too. she wanted to kick me out of the house after that.

at some point i start to believe they really want me out of the house. because my mom tells me when ur not acting as a part of ur family ur always out, never home. but then i explain her i have a social life i need my friends, my bf and that i love my family too but the atmosphere at home is too negative for me to stay there and just keep yelling and fighting against them. so then she goes okay fine then if ur not happy find urself another home cuz it seems u dont wanna be here and we dont want u here anyways.

 

[Amara]

I used to get angry and fight with my family lots... as soon as I left high school though, my perspective changed, I guess I grew up a bit and the reasons for getting angry didnt seem to be there anymore. It's not easy being a female and sometimes it seems that everyone is against us, but really there is much that we do to provoke the situation instead of diffusing it.

So I guess although sometimes it may seem like the solution is just to leave, you should find good ways of relieving frustration... take time out for yourself. And in regards to your bf, parents wont understand and trust their kids when they feel like they are growing up fast but the more you discuss it with them rationally and maturely, the better they will feel about you staying there and the more confidence they will have in you and your decisions.

Ultimately you only have one family, and whilst it may be difficult sometimes, it would be horrible to lose them. My advice would be to try treating them as best you can, because with any luck, the more effort you put into getting along, the more likely they will reciprocate and give you the trust, independence and respect that you want.

 

[_carmi]

actually i do try to spend a lot of the time out of the house, trying to cool down things. i dont wanna leave, they're my family after all, and even if half of the time i'd like to kill them cuz they get me so angry, i still wanna have them in my life no matter what. i try to do my best at being nice and stuff. now its been 2-3 days things are getting a little more stable but thats half due to the fact i want home this weekend, went to my bf's house so they didnt see me from saturday night to sunday night. i believe things will get better if my sisters start to grow up because for their age, they have baby attitudes, they cry for anything, but really anything and thats not only bothering me, but my parents too.

oh i was talking to my dad recently and he told me i was right about the whole situation, but the reason he wont be on my side its cause he doesnt wanna argue with my mom, because he and i know that she'll kick him out of the house because she always want to kick out of the house people who dont agree because she thinks she always right, which she isn't most of the time. but my dad was telling me to always agree with what my mom says, which i cant. if she's wrong, she's wrong. i cant tolerate to be that hypocrite. i'm direct and honest and my mom doesnt like it. she lives in her perfect dream, she doesnt realize that dreams are not real. she has a lot of personality problems, thinking she's all that, always trying to seek for more attention, thinking she can go out all the time when she cant cuz she has my two lil siters to take care of. because all of her friends have either no kids or their kids are fully grown up and they go out and do what the fuck they want, so my mom thinks she can do the same without realizing that she cant she has a family, two kids of 11 and 13 years old plus me of 17. i'm not going to babysit my sisters and she knows it. so it just pisses her off sometimes that we're there. sometimes i do believe that she would have been better with no kids at all. she wasnt made to be a mother.

as of my bf, my dad told me striaght up yesterday that he didnt wanna know, he doesnt wanna see me getting older and older. he doesnt wanna know what happens in my sex/love life. he even told me that if i wanna go sleep at my bf's house i just have to make up a story that make sense and go. i think he's scared of me growing up and its killin him. he still sees me as his lil baby.