Emotional people

Preach

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#1
I read an article about Behring Breivik (the guy behind the recent massacre over here) and multiculturism. The article goes on to talk about his anti-cultural views and how he himself, the language he speaks, and so forth, are all products of multiculturism. The article (or I guess it's more of an editorial-type text) is part of a campaign to "undress" the terrorist and expose him. I agreed with the article very much, so I hit "Like" at the bottom.

It then gets shared on my Facebook wall along with the article picture which happened to be of Behring Breivik. Then I get shit from some chick saying "Sorry but I don't wanna see pictures like this one, so I'm deleting this". Not sure what she meant about the delete comment, or maybe you can block certain status updates from appearing in your stream? I dunno, but point being that she obviously didn't read the article. She apparently must have seen the picture, gotten all upset, and then stopped thinking like a rational human being. The picture is shown in every newspaper, every TV channel, and all over the web. You can't escape it, so why even say such a fucking moronic thing. I linked an article because I hoped some moronic anti-Islamist would read it and have an epiphany. A pipe dream, I know, but point being that I acted on good intentions.

So then I obviously have to respond. Because she doesn't make it clear whether she read the article or not, so for all I know she thinks I'm some supporter or whatever. The article title doesn't give any good insight on what the article is about, and could even be misleading, so I'm thinking she saw his picture and stopped looking at the link, thinking I was linking to something I wasn't. Either way, I felt inclined to respond. And any response that justifies posting the picture of a crazy murderer is always gonna be accepted by people who agree, but emotional people never get it. People who let pictures related to sad events upset them so much they refuse to listen to sound reasoning scare me just as much as terrorists because they are the people who would burn "witches" at the stakes. Fear is dangerous. Now I'm just left with mixed feelings of irrational guilt and insecurities.

I was gonna post this in another thread, but then remember the rethoric that we're not drowning in useful threads so why not post a new one. Here's another useless thread. I hate emotional people that let fear cloud their intellect, and I hate being victim of emotional people's concerns. I was as fucking devastated by this attack as anyone else not directly involved, so I resent her implications or unwillingness to have a rational discussion about darker aspects of what happened. I also like to end my threads with an encouraging "Discuss!". Discuss!
 

Chronic

Well-Known Member
#2
My advice would be to figure out why exactly she reacts this why, or rather why people react this way. That knowledge may allow you to give it a place and help you retain a sense of control thereby leaving you less frustrated. Will last you a lifetime.
Also, in my experience, it's never a good thing to react to something like that while you feel that frustration, wait until it passes. If you can replace that frustration with a thought pattern/action that helps you feel less frustrated it can break the pattern of feeling that frustration under such circumstances.

I mostly dislike the feeling of distance it creates between you and that person.

That off-topic?
 

S O F I

Administrator
Staff member
#3
I think if you were to go through the trouble of trying to understand why she reacted that way, you'll be disappointed. Most likely, she didn't give it much thought and believed the article was about something else. In other words, you will not get an answer adequate enough to delve into her psyche and find your satisfaction. My advice is to not give a fuck and move on.
 

Preach

Well-Known Member
#5
^^
Yep, that's where I landed (and usually always land on matters like this, for the record).

It hit close to home when the shit went down. I felt "out of it" for a few days. I didn't cry, but it did impact me in a negative way. If I may make a comparison that I realize is somewhat ludicrous, I felt like I had a better understanding of how 9/11 must have impacted Americans. It's different when it happens at home. 9/11, and the events that followed, taught me some lessons that I kept in mind when this happened. The moment I heard about the explosion my initial reaction was "That is horrible, but regardless of who's behind it, it is very important now that we do not make villains out of good people due to emotional distress".

Maybe I should've been more expressive, but I pretty much just got annoyed by another persons momentary shortsightedness and raged like you do at people who sneak in line in front of you, even though you forget five minutes later. But it's 3:30 in the morning and I wanted to express my frustration :p What annoyed me most wasn't her emotional response, it was her lack of ability to think one step further and assume I agree with her, and that me posting this article serves a greater purpose than sparing someone from having to have a negative emotion for a split second as they scroll through their newsfeed. Or that I acted out of not understanding the ramifications, in which case there's a way to go about saying you disapprove of something, and it's not to be patronizing or whatever.
 

_carmi

me, myself & us
#9
Boy did I feel bad when I was announcing to people how Amy died and they are like, haven't you heard of what happened in Norway. It puts things in perspective.
 

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