Friends with someone, lack of things in common - Page 3

(SS)Sebastian · #21 (**permalink**) 10-09-2009, 01:05 AM

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I think you can have very little things in common and maintain a friendship. I could be friends with you even though we don't have the same interests at all. One common interest (Tupac) that we do have would definitely not be something keeping the friendship afloat. In fact, if we met and you brought up Tupac as something to discuss, I'd tell you to fuck off lol.

What i realised over the time is that the majority of people i know label someone else a "friend" way earlier than i would do it. By the time they call them friend i would maybe label them a comrade (i dont really know if this is the right word that you use in english but anyway).

A friend, to me, is someone that i totally respect as a person. We need to share at least the most basic characteristics like honesty, friendliness, humour, reliability and so on. I like to hang out with this person because its fun but on the other hand i would be able to talk with him or her about very private things as well. I think two main points are that you could trust this person without a doubt and that he/she could help you out (with advice, or support in different ways) in every situation.

I would never label someone else a friend if i dont respect this person for the things that he/she does or thinks. Then, in my book, you are comrade....maybe.

14MenDeep · #22 (**permalink**) 10-09-2009, 03:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Shadows

He wants to know how to destroy a barrier that's stopping him from sexing her.

im not sexually attracted to her, man!

its just that i hate all the akwardness and would like it to be free-flowing and no tension.

there was a point, coming towards the end of the last academic year during and before exams (around april-june) that we were getting on really well. i guess we were making the most of it before the summer holidays as we wouldnt see each other for 4 months. that four months has surpassed now, so maybe it'll take a bit of time to get back into it and gel together again.

the only way we kept in touch was through a few text messages to each other during the holidays. speaking of holidays, she went on 3 vacations, whereas i was stuck here because my company wouldnt allow me to take any holidays. other people must be feeling refreshed, i still feel as if i was continuing all the way through the summer.

in the first few lectures she sat away from me and behind me. why? because she brought her girlfriend with her. im not sure if she knows that i know who that was exactly. she may think that i think she's a student at the university or just a friend. her girlfriend is not a student there; she just came to keep louise some company. so that would be a contributing factor to the delay.

PokeHerMan · #23 (**permalink**) 10-09-2009, 09:11 AM

Friends are fables of our loneliness.

14MenDeep · #24 (**permalink**) 10-09-2009, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by chyeahh

i don't get why you care so much about her if you just met her and there's no way you can have sex with her?

if only your mental age was the same as your chronological age and you would be able to see things from someone else's perspective. surely you would know that different people have different needs and that is not what i am after from a FRIEND!

in addition to this, would it occur to you that people other than yourself hold different beliefs and values?

chyeahh · #25 (**permalink**) 10-09-2009, 03:32 PM

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if only your mental age was the same as your chronological age and you would be able to see things from someone else's perspective. surely you would know that different people have different needs and that is not what i am after from a FRIEND!

in addition to this, would it occur to you that people other than yourself hold different beliefs and values?

hey man, no need for the (clever) shots at me. i didn't get it, you explained, now i do (kinda...). definitely not how i operate, but hey, who am i to judge? more power to you my friend.

mastabator247 · #26 (**permalink**) 10-09-2009, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by chyeahh

hey man, no need for the (clever) shots at me. i didn't get it, you explained, now i do (kinda...). definitely not how i operate, but hey, who am i to judge? more power to you my friend.

So basically the only reason you befriend girls is to have sex with them?

PokeHerMan · #27 (**permalink**) 10-09-2009, 06:08 PM

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Originally Posted by masta247

So basically the only reason you befriend girls is to have sex with them?

No, to go shopping and gossip with them. And trade recipes.

chyeahh · #28 (**permalink**) 10-10-2009, 12:23 AM

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So basically the only reason you befriend girls is to have sex with them?

not saying that at all.

i'm saying i already have enough friends, so that if i were to not get along with a 28 year old lesbian who i only recently met, it would not faze me in the slightest. especially not enough to ask for advice on a message board over.

i can understand:
- if she was a chick i was interested in.
- or if she was a friend i've known for a long time

.. but like i said.. i guess that's just me.

Sophie · #29 (**permalink**) 10-10-2009, 04:45 AM

i have to agree with dude...

come on, seriously...

dude is stressing over a chick he has no interest in and had a couple of milkshakes with...

i think dude needs to get some friends...or a scrotum...all his posts are on some 15 year old pussy shit.

fAg $TyLe · #30 (**permalink**) 10-10-2009, 05:56 AM

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Originally Posted by S O F I

some 15 year old pussy.

Hi, I'm Chris Hansen, take a seat right over there.