Physical appearance can count for a lot because it's the first thing you notice about someone and the way they present themselves could give you a specific impression about that particular person. If its good enough for your standards then you may want to get to know that person better and from then on you can both spend time with each other and the relation can develop.
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Originally Posted by _carmi
it's not flawed. you can get emotionally attached to anybody who you spend some good amount of time with. but i think the type of person theory comes into play when you're thinking long term relationship. because values, personality, etc all decide if this relationship will work. even if people can be attracted to others that are different from them, people really have relationships that workout with others that are similar to them. rare are the long term relationships where the 2 people involved have nothing in common.
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Of course. Because when you know you want a long-term relationship with someone, you want to know your going to have one with the right kind of person - so you feel 'happier' you chose your type of person, based on mental criteria the person must meet. now, these may not be so clear or decisive to begin with, but as you get to know that person through time you may begin to understand them including their values, beliefs and personality.
Just elaborating on what your saying here carmi (but from my perspective). When the two people have different values, personality and interests (wierdest thing just happened - i'm listening to the jurassic 5 song "thin line" and they said "opposities attract" - which i was just about to mention).
anyway, back on topic. they said that "opposites attract", yes, this can be true but to an extent. If the two people are different that can be a good thing, but when they have a conflict of interest or when they behave much differently to each other, they may not agree with each other or may not be actively involved.
for example, someone who may be extroverted may be into partying, going out, getting wasted and having a good time almost every night or weekend whereas the other may enjoy a quiet night in, reading, watching tv or whatever. the couple may like each other a lot, physically and emotionally - but their personalities and values may differ quite significantly and because of that, things may not work out. everything cant be perfect and therefore when you find someone you like, you cant always expect them to fit into the categories of what your "type" requires.
