What is love? - Page 2

Flipmo · #11 (**permalink**) 11-15-2008, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Preach

to me, love is what accumulates over time. i could call it love or i could call it "being very fucking used to each other". you grow to love anything you're exposed to over a long amount of time. they say most people fall in love with someone else roughly three times throughout a life-long marriage. it's 2008 and people are whores so a lot of people feel justified in moving on just because they fell in love with someone else. then they start dating someone else, get married, after a few years it's rinse and repeat. to me, love is what you get when you work past shit like that. when you don't take the easy route and listen to your stupid feelings. you wanna leave your girlfriend but don't, then when time passes by and your emotions go away (which they always do - for the life of me i don't understand why people are so caught up in their emotions. they WILL go away and mean nothing, so why are they a big deal?) and ultimately you realize you're glad you didn't. mo' overcome problems, mo lurwez.

Sebastian · #12 (**permalink**) 11-15-2008, 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Shadows

Love makes no sense.

Love frees us of all the weight and pain of life, but eventually no one can feel it until all the pain is gone. So although it is synonymous to the most powerful thing, it is also the weakest thing. One thing i do know is that, "Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end."

How is love easy to begin?

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Originally Posted by Preach

to me, love is what accumulates over time. i could call it love or i could call it "being very fucking used to each other". you grow to love anything you're exposed to over a long amount of time. they say most people fall in love with someone else roughly three times throughout a life-long marriage. it's 2008 and people are whores so a lot of people feel justified in moving on just because they fell in love with someone else. then they start dating someone else, get married, after a few years it's rinse and repeat. to me, love is what you get when you work past shit like that. when you don't take the easy route and listen to your stupid feelings. you wanna leave your girlfriend but don't, then when time passes by and your emotions go away (which they always do - for the life of me i don't understand why people are so caught up in their emotions. they WILL go away and mean nothing, so why are they a big deal?) and ultimately you realize you're glad you didn't. mo' overcome problems, mo lurwez.

What kind of emotions do you mean? Emotions in general?

Shadows · #13 (**permalink**) 11-15-2008, 10:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Sebastian

How is love easy to begin?

love itself isn't easy. but when you are attracted to someone in a lust fashion then u eventually fall in love whether you want to have those feelings or not... because it grows the more time you spend with them. therefore its easy because you dont have to TRY to fall in love...

...basically what Preach and Rahim said.

Its not necessarily good all the time.

When you look @ someone and your unhappy yet your still with them its because your in love. but if u break out of it and think...hmmm...

Waste my life.....or take a chance with this broad and hope things change b/c i love her.

knahmean?

In other words, without love you wouldnt consider wasting your time.

However, If u r confused there is one word to describe true love, and that my friend is: Fellatio.

Sebastian · #14 (**permalink**) 11-15-2008, 10:42 AM

No. Wrong.

_carmi · #15 (**permalink**) 11-15-2008, 01:05 PM

I will use a few quotes

"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down."
- Woody Allen

"Love doesn't make the world go round, love is what makes the ride worthwhile." - Elizabeth Browning

"Love is more than three words mumbled before bedtime. Love is sustained by action, a pattern of devotion in the things we do for each other every day." - Nicholas Sparks

"Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it...It really is worth fighting for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk everything, you risk even more." - Erica Jong

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." (1 Corinthians 13:4-8a, NIV)

Sebastian · #16 (**permalink**) 11-15-2008, 01:40 PM

But i said: In.....your.....own....words.

Preach · #17 (**permalink**) 11-15-2008, 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Sebastian

What kind of emotions do you mean? Emotions in general?

Well. If you're with a girl for ten years and she leaves you, the grief is very real. It's a life crisis, and opposed to for example falling in love, the ramifications of that crisis spreads over many fascets of your life. Some people leave all old hobbies, some even ditch friends. To start a new life. The whole process is tiresome and lengthy, so when a girl leaves you like that the emotions you feel are worse than just some romantic "i wish she liked me" bullshit.

If a family member dies, the grief is very real. If you win a lottery, the excitement is very real. Drastic changes to your life, for better or worse, trigger emotions that go on somewhat out of your control. I'm talking about stuff like feeling down one day, being stressed because of an upcoming event, having a crush, and several other trivial emotions. They pass. You act on a crush and you'll keep rousing yourself up thinking about it all the time, to the point where you start liking the person. And everything that follows up until marriage. You don't act on it and eventually you'll forget all about it. Most adult people are in relationships with people they like, right? I mean, you initially like the person, so if you feel like pursuing a crush it could be one of a few things causing it. Maybe you've changed drastically. That doesn't just happen, that's the result of something that had a larger impact on you. In that case, it's not just a trivial emotion, but a response to something that has happened and is out of your control. Or, things have started to get a little boring, you want some excitement, and BAM there's this really cute girl or guy who showed interest in you. So like the whore you are you pursue it and leave a person you professed to like in the dust behind you. It's selfish, I guess is what I'm trying to say. A crush is comparable to what you feel when you go on a shopping spree or take some ecstasy. It's not real, it doesn't matter, it shouldn't be important unless you're a whore in nature.

This is all just in my opinion though.

_carmi · #18 (**permalink**) 11-15-2008, 03:26 PM

why the question sebby?

S O F I · #19 (**permalink**) 11-15-2008, 03:47 PM

^Seb keeps digging a hole trying to frame the concept of love.

Let it be man let it be!

_carmi · #20 (**permalink**) 11-15-2008, 03:50 PM

whats your definition sebby of love?