What do you think of this situation? This happened a while back. My then current girlfriend (while things were going downhill for us) runs into my ex-girlfriend who she knows only by sight (and vice versa), and (I guess) they talk. She tells me, "Oh, I saw so-and-so." And that's it. And she has a look on her face like she's waiting to see what my reaction will be. I play it cool and don't question her. A few months later she says she ran into her again.

Now, I broke up with the first one, so I know she wasn't a big fan of mine. And I know she's gonna be somewhat jealous of my new girl (or jealous that I might be happy with her) and probably want to break us up with her mouth anyway she can. So, do I want my girl talking to her and maybe comparing notes on what they don't like about me? Hell, no. Was it wrong of my girl to talk to an ex that I wasn't on good terms with? and then not voluntarily tell me what she said, so that, if it was a distortion, I could defend myself? I don't know who initiated it but, was it a kind of betrayal for my girl to talk to her? How would you feel in that situation? Would you ask her not to talk to her?

Here's what I wanted to say. "What!? You ran into her? What the fuck did she say? Why the fuck is she talking to you? Why the fuck are you talking to her? You wanna be where the fuck she is--not with me, just keep fucking talking to her."

Here's what I actually said: "Do you think she's attractive? Would you be interested in a 3-way?"

good idea about having a 3some

but think about it like this...u cant change what has already happen..and u need to make your gf understand that...even if she is comparing notes about you with ur x....u need to make her understand that whatever she is insecure or worried about, she should talk to u about it not with ur X because shes not in the relationship. your gf needs to be honest with you about how she feels. and if u are ashamed of things uve done, well....be honest about it anyway....because in the end if she really cares...its going to be for who you really are not what you did....


thats how i look at it tho...so yeah.....

yeah i get that "i ran into so-and-so" a lot too.. small ass town. but anyways, they dont really like each other [well, new girl hates old girl, simply cuz she's former girl] so its more like 'i saw ______ today" and its like she says it just to see if i'm interested. i say somethin like, "hmm" or somethin. not to be a dick like a dont care, but not to seem so interested that she may misconstrue my expression as still having feelings for the ex. cant really question what was said, but if she kept mentioning seeing or talking to her i would feel obliged to mention it. "well you guys sure seem to be hitting it off better than i did with her" or somethin like that. or just casually say "what'd you talk about?" and if it comes back to me, and me being a bad person i'd be like "yeah fuck that fat bitch, there's a reason she's in my past and not my present, i'm glad you're not like her" or something. relationships are tricky, just let your girl know you're in there for her and the last girl doesnt mean shit. or, lie and say you ran into her ex and see what she says.

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WTF?

never insinuate a fucking 3 way with your EX and Current girl that you are going down hill with.

Always, Always insist on a 3 way with your current girl (that you are going downhill with), and her best friend!

Why?

Because, if they are for it you score! And it just might spicen the relationship again. (if your still interested)

If not, then she leaves you b/c she gets pissed off, or she stops talking to her bestfriend, which is always a good thing b/c then that annoying bitch wont put shit in her head anymore. (i guarantee her bestfriend is the reason you two are going downhill)

again, if not. then just fuck your ex.

Totally Win win baby, yah!

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^Can't argue with that. Pure Brilliance.

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lol out of his entire post you rambled about the line that had nothing to do with anything

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I probably would have asked what was said in a not so caring type of way. Actually it depends, cus if her tone was right when she said she saw my ex today I probably would have said now you see why I croke up with that bitch. I don't think it's a betrayal by your girl at all. I don't think you should be upset, they have something in common they said hi or whatever let it slide. I think the one mistake you did make was not asking what was said cus you got yourself going crazy for nothing probably.

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I know, it was the joke part.

If they did talk about me, I doubt she would have told me. Anyway, I wasn't all that upset for more than a minute. I just milked the whole idea of it to the extreme for this thread.

Sometimes I imagine throwing some kind of get together and inviting my former girlfriends. Just me and them. Boy, what punishment I'd be in for. "Hey, I know, let's have an orgy. No, let's not hang me up and hit me with sticks."

i think a big mistake you made was the fact that you didnt ask.. i mean, if you think of it this way, what kind of person wouldnt ask? it just makes you look as if youre making a conscious effort to look like you dont care, even though it's cearly obvious to her that you do.

you should just ask but just in a jovial way. maybe something like "oh yeh i bet she said shed love to scratch me with a rake" then laugh it off. maybe try manipulate her into telling you what was said.

it's kind of like showing youre confident enough to ask

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